smile95 Posted May 29, 2005 Posted May 29, 2005 could someone please tell me a story where you and who you thought was "the one" broke up and you thought your life was over and then one day you fell in love with someone else and you felt that happiness and love again! PLEEEEEASE SOMEONE have a story! I am afraid I am just in love with being in love and not really my ex? I know Ilove him, but what I think I love is how he made me feel(sometimes-lol)
Tony Posted May 29, 2005 Senior Moderators Posted May 29, 2005 First of all, the only reason we fall in love and stay in love is because of the way our object makes us feel when we are around him or her...so you've got that part right. Also, having been on this forum for a very long time and in life even longer I can say with all certainty that there is life and love after a break up. If we married everybody we started dating, life would be really dull and there would be really no point in dating as such. The purpose of serious dating is to find out if the person we are seeing is right to be our life partner. It's great when they are and it's great when we find out they're not. It's so much easier to heal and move on from a dating situation than from a divorce where two or three kids and thousands of dollars are involved. So every ending is great if it gets you back on the right track and ends a situation that's wrong for one or both parties. Why would you want that to continue? Be patient. Love will find a way!
Author smile95 Posted May 29, 2005 Author Posted May 29, 2005 thanks! The reason my ex is such a difficult person is prob bcause he does have a soon to be ex wife and a child. I guess our timing was off. I am in such a hurry to have a family and children that maybe I just made himout to be perfect and really God is leading me elsewhere for a reason. I love him, but really in all honesty he is very selfish and I overlooked a lot! !!!!!!thank you for giving me hope. Right now, it is so easy to see what other people should do, but when it comes to me I am blind.
Tony Posted May 29, 2005 Senior Moderators Posted May 29, 2005 Don't jump wildly into something because you are on the rebound or eager to have children. Using a sperm bank is a far better choice for having children than inadvertantly falling for a person that could make this life hell for you. Take time to heal, the move cautiously.
Treasa Posted May 29, 2005 Posted May 29, 2005 God, I can't even tell you how many times "the one" broke up with me, and then I'd always find someone else. There were a lot of "the one"s. I always recovered, and there was always someone who'd make my heart start pounding again. With time, I couldn't even remember why I liked the exes. For example, I adore my current boyfriend, and I'm still friends with some of my exes. I don't even know why I was attracted to them, but at the time, when we broke up, I'd be crying, miserable, begging God to change things, etc. for days or even months. But not really more than a couple of months. It's never taken me more than maybe three months to really get over someone, but when you're in that position, that sounds like a LONG time. It isn't, really. Not when you're looking back on it.
Jadey Posted May 29, 2005 Posted May 29, 2005 Ive only had one relationship, the ex. But i know ive liked guys before and thought my world was ended because they didnt like me or whatever. But then i get back on track. Its just hard at the time. You will fall in love again and get those giddy feelings, as will i. I just wish i didnt get those feelings with my ex still Times a healer. And remember, what doesnt kill you makes you stronger. Its soo true Btw if you wanna chat on AIM or MSN, hit me up!
Author smile95 Posted May 29, 2005 Author Posted May 29, 2005 I think in a few months, I will look back and wonder whyI wasted my time thinking about him. I look forward to meeting someone new and seeing how love is supposed to be. Ijust have always had a hard time with change and letting go. It is nice to know that I will get over it though in time. I even caught myself singing in the car? If I were thaaaat upset, I guess I would not have done that! lol I can tell that I am getting better, but it does not stop me thinking of him. I think he likes the fact that he knows from the past, that he can do whatever and just come back when he feels like it or feels I am surviving w/out him. I will just take it one day at a time I suppose. thanks all!
pretyangel Posted June 2, 2005 Posted June 2, 2005 I was married for 25 years and for 17 years I had thought about divorce because we had no marriage, we were more like roomates. Anywho......to make a long story short...I met the most wonderful man and am engaged to him now to be married this year. I have never been treated so well and been so sincerely loved before in my entire life. Yes there are wonderful men out there and one of them just wlaked in my life. I got out of a bad marriage and it was so hard for me, I felt sad, guilty etc etc....................now I am finally home, a place of utter happiness and love. Do not gice up ever! Be happy within yourself first, respect yourself and sincerely feel that you deserve to be loved..........................all else will naturally follow! God Bless
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