LookAtThisPOst Posted December 5, 2015 Posted December 5, 2015 (edited) If a dude has to call me just because he has to verify I'm a female, I'm sorry get outta here. Maybe have a better screening process if you find yourself continuously fooled. As for telemarketers: that's what a DNC list is for. Also stated above, I screen all calls. Unknown numbers are never answered. If they're actual people they'll leave a VM. Phone calls for me, are for people I'm interested in, and want to hear from. We've hit the point where we ask about our days and are genuinely interested. Otherwise, I find it forced and tedious. I've met so many people. Tinder, OKCupid, POF, Match. I think MAYBE four people off my list ever mentioned calling me. I'm a good diverter so of those 4, only 1 made it to an actual call. The rest I meet in person. Have never been stood up, or had anyone disappointed in my voice. Certainly am not all high pitched and squeaky, nor do I sound like a man with a deep voice to scare them away. Of all my dates three guys organically turned into phone calls over time and we'd talk for hours and hours. I prefer organic progression. Not "hey I'm calling to make sure you're a chick." This threads hilarious. You sound like you're too much work to be worth it. At any rate, typically if someone refuses to talk on the phone before meeting, it likely means they are married or a live-in sig. other...and calling him/her would compromise things on their end. Usually it means they have something to hide or, if not that, they are socially challenged. Yes, I call doctors offices, but not without some anxiety. Medical doctor or psychologist? Edited December 5, 2015 by LookAtThisPOst
ASG Posted December 5, 2015 Posted December 5, 2015 You sound like you're too much work to be worth it. At any rate, typically if someone refuses to talk on the phone before meeting, it likely means they are married or a live-in sig. other...and calling him/her would compromise things on their end. Usually it means they have something to hide or, if not that, they are socially challenged. Medical doctor or psychologist? No one said they refused. KatZee said she diverted the subject and ended up not having a phone convo. I wouldn't refuse to talk on the phone... But I certainly wouldn't want to have a 30 minute convo on the phone with a complete stranger.
Gaeta Posted December 5, 2015 Posted December 5, 2015 . But I certainly wouldn't want to have a 30 minute convo on the phone with a complete stranger. I have had 1-2 hours conversations on the phone with complete strangers. We clicked and it was super fun. Why? because I am an easy-going social person. To me someone unable to pick up the phone to say hello suffers from constipation. Life is short and I don't want to date someone that suffers from emotional or social constipation. 1
katiegrl Posted December 5, 2015 Posted December 5, 2015 (edited) If a dude has to call me just because he has to verify I'm a female, I'm sorry get outta here. Maybe have a better screening process if you find yourself continuously fooled. As for telemarketers: that's what a DNC list is for. Also stated above, I screen all calls. Unknown numbers are never answered. If they're actual people they'll leave a VM. Phone calls for me, are for people I'm interested in, and want to hear from. We've hit the point where we ask about our days and are genuinely interested. Otherwise, I find it forced and tedious. *********** I've met so many people. Tinder, OKCupid, POF, Match. I think MAYBE four people off my list ever mentioned calling me. I'm a good diverter so of those 4, only 1 made it to an actual call. The rest I meet in person. ***Have never been stood up, or had anyone disappointed in my voice. Certainly am not all high pitched and squeaky, nor do I sound like a man with a deep voice to scare them away. *********** Of all my dates three guys organically turned into phone calls over time and we'd talk for hours and hours. I prefer organic progression. Not "hey I'm calling to make sure you're a chick." This threads hilarious. LOL .....I don't prefer a *quick* five minute chat so HE can hear MY voice.....I prefer it so *I* can hear HIS voice. And if he sounds like he's in grammar school, or sounds like a girl, or if it just rubs me the wrong way for whatever reason, I will skip meeting him. Actually, I have had men totally fall for me simply by hearing *my* voice......so not at all concerned about what HE thinks. This is MY screening process. Let him have his own. Again, someone's voice is important to *some* people. I get it's not important to YOU KatZee...... but everyone is different so no need to be mocking and judgmental of those of us who prefer a *quick* chat prior to meeting. Jesus. Again no one is talking about a 30 minute call.. five minutes! It boggles the mind how certain posters insist on either not reading or dismissing certain info posted in a particular thread...in an effort to make a point. Open up your minds for chrissakes. Everyone is *different*. Audio v. visual.... no wrong or right Only what is right for us, as individuals. Edited December 5, 2015 by katiegrl
LookAtThisPOst Posted December 5, 2015 Posted December 5, 2015 No one said they refused. KatZee said she diverted the subject and ended up not having a phone convo. I wouldn't refuse to talk on the phone. You're just splitting hairs ASG, it's pretty much the same thing as refusing.
katiegrl Posted December 5, 2015 Posted December 5, 2015 (edited) I have had 1-2 hours conversations on the phone with complete strangers. We clicked and it was super fun. Why? because I am an easy-going social person. To me someone unable to pick up the phone to say hello suffers from constipation. Life is short and I don't want to date someone that suffers from emotional or social constipation. That has happened to me too a few times G.... my intention was to have a *quick* chat ...just to hear his voice and get a *feel* .....but we would end up totally clicking and talking for an hour...or longer even! And yeah it's totally fun! Being *rigid* and having *rules* about this stuff ...or anything really ....is one's worst enemy when it comes to dating and relationships. IMO spontaneity and flexibility are a must if one wishes to have more successful dating experiences. Edited December 5, 2015 by katiegrl 1
ASG Posted December 5, 2015 Posted December 5, 2015 Being *rigid* and having *rules* about this stuff ...or anything really ....is one's worst enemy when it comes to dating and relationships. IMO spontaneity and flexibility are a must if one wishes to have more successful dating experiences. I agree with this though. Which is why, even though I'd rather NOT talk on the phone, I'm willing to do so. Can't say I've had guys asking me for it, but I also don't tend to meet that many people through OLD
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