SrJuanox Posted December 2, 2015 Posted December 2, 2015 Hello everyone. Well, long story short: I'm at university, and this semester i met a girl from the faculty that is really good looking, funny, caring, kind, and other amazing qualities. At first we started like mocking each other and everything, you know, being "playful" between us.. Like a month ago, things started to get a little more personal: We started to have more time together, we always worked together in works, we started to hold hands and everything, then we had an actual date and it's been amazing. You might say "What's the problem?" The problem here is, as everything seems so "perfect" I'm so afraid I'm gonna screw it up sometime and ruin everything, I mean, it may sound childish or whatever, but im the kinda guy who even if all is perfect, is scared of doing something wrong and destroy it all... Anytime we talk in person is amazing, but when we talk by text (which I hate because sometimes I dont know what to say or whatever) I feel like I'm annoying her, so I dont like it... How do I overcome this effing insecurity about this amazing relationship we have? I think is because I had a breakup in January with the girl I tought was "the one"... so I feel kinda scared of ruining this because, as I said, everything looks so perfect that I'm afraid is not going to last long... Any advice will be helpful.. Thanks, and greetings from Colombia!
kassy Posted December 3, 2015 Posted December 3, 2015 No relationship or person is perfect. Don't strive for perfection. Do your best, focus on having fun, trying to make sure she has fun and really getting to know her better. Just like you she has flaws. focus less on her being the one. You don't know her well enough to even make that assessment yet
d0nnivain Posted December 3, 2015 Posted December 3, 2015 If you are a student a faculty member has no business flirting with you let alone going on a date with you. She could lose her job by dating a student. If texting her bothers you, stop texting her. Focus on the good things in your relationship not the bad ones.
Versacehottie Posted December 3, 2015 Posted December 3, 2015 Don't focus on the "end", ie a person being the ONE. Just take things day by day and have fun. You are worried about screwing it up because you've already deemed it more important than it really is, which puts unnecessary pressure on both of you. Slow down and enjoy. Also be realistic. If you are a normal aged uni student, the reality is she will probably not be the last ONE. The primary purpose you should focus on is enjoying each other, growing as a person because she is in your life and the rest will unfold as it is meant to. Good luck
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