Does this mean anything on OLD and why do they do this?

[truth_seeker]

You're in a store. You see a shirt. You pick it up. You like it but there's somethng not quite right about it. Maybe the color is wrong, or the cut is off, or the price is too high.

 

You move to another rack, look at other shirts. You don't like any of those, either.

 

You come back to the first shirt, look at it in different light. Nope, it's still not begging to be taken to the register.

 

You look at some more shirts...

 

OLD is filled with shirts.

 

OLD = window shopping.

[truth_seeker]

Is it safe to say, the people on OLD who are over 30, for the most part, divorced, are there to actually meet someone?

 

Usually, 20-29 are there to mess around?

[strawberryshortstack]

No, I don't respond to EVERY message I get. Did I say that? NO. I only message back the guys that I have interest in. About the majority of them I block them, duh. I message back the guys I have interest, then like the OP originally said, they log on, don't message for days, look the profile and never reply back. Guys enjoy wasting time. Why the heck do thy take the time to message a female when they will just ignore her? Geez. Obviously, guys bitch about how had they have it, how they don't get no responses, how short they are, how poor they are, and when someone actually shows interest, they blow her off because they think they can find something better. At least focus on one person!!!!

 

A message is not an obligation to date. He replied, she replied, he decided she wasn't a good fit for some reason. At that point, he is under no obligation to correspond any further.

 

And it works - if the initial message is thoughtful and well-written enough, I'll look at the profile. If the profile intrigues me, I'll respond. But if he says something in his next message that tells me we won't be a good fit, I am under NO obligation to send another message. It's not rude, it's not wasting time. If I were to continue communication knowing full well I have no intention of meeting the guy, THAT would be wasting time.

[truth_seeker]

I was on OLD and this older woman sent me a message. I chatted with her and she went for it. She gave me her full name, email, phone number, she wanted to meet me. So, I checked her out online. Found her on all these websites. There were pics, videos, she was this health nut. Something about her gave me this bad feeling. I didn't speak to her again. Maybe I should have sent her a note telling her a white lie to get out of it to spare her feelings, but I didn't it. That make me a jerk?

[NoLeafClover]

Is it safe to say, the people on OLD who are over 30, for the most part, divorced, are there to actually meet someone?

 

Usually, 20-29 are there to mess around?

 

Im 29 never married..did online dating few yrs ago mostly for fun and nothing serious. Now I haven't gotten back to LD specifically because I felt most women I meet from there back then were not looking for anything long term..They would tell me they were but after a few months together it was pretty clear they were not looking for no family type relationship.

I guess it depends on the area, what site...but at the end depends on the person. It's really a hit or miss.

I have been holding back on online dating due to this.

[mystikmind2005]

Im 29 never married..did online dating few yrs ago mostly for fun and nothing serious. Now I haven't gotten back to LD specifically because I felt most women I meet from there back then were not looking for anything long term..They would tell me they were but after a few months together it was pretty clear they were not looking for no family type relationship.

I guess it depends on the area, what site...but at the end depends on the person. It's really a hit or miss.

I have been holding back on online dating due to this.

 

Yea, these women don't want commitment, but they don't want to admit to just wanting casual either.

 

The other thing too, the quality of the guys looking for real relationships is generally allot less 'dodgy' than those guys just looking for casual, so women want to avoid those type of guys i think?

[Toodaloo]

Do you know what. For all the bashing of OLD everyone seems to forget that it is just a tool to meet other people.

 

I have had my disasters. I have had my successes. So it hasn't worked out yet but I am not going to blame OLD for the fact that I haven't met the person I want to be with yet.

 

Its a tool.

 

Bad workmen blame their tools and forget that it takes talent to use those tools...

 

Just saying not everyone can be an expert carpenter, lay carpets or fix a car...

 

For me I have learnt my lessons and, as in real life, I have learnt how to avoid the waccos and weirdos who will only bring drama into my life. Its a learning curve. Of course they are out there. They are out there in real life as well. I don't go slagging off some weird bloke that gave me the creaps and had the audacity to look at me in Tesco so why should I bother when he does the same with OLD?

 

People forget that it is people on the end of those profiles. Some we get on with, some we don't. Some we will fancy, some we won't. Its just life. Don't blame the hammer because your aim is off and you keep hitting your thumb.