Does this mean anything on OLD and why do they do this?

[Lvkv23]

So I messaged someone on OLD with no questions, just a nice remark, and he replied back with two open ended questions. I replied back with the answers and asked him some questions, and he decided not reply back. It was 4 days ago and I've seen him online everyday when I log on. Then yesterday I updated my profile and added new pictures. This morning I saw that he looked at my profile. Why do they do this if they weren't interested enough to respond back? Does it mean anything? Slightly interested? Ugh, I hate OLD because I am old. haha

[SwordofFlame]

Probably not enough interest or you're essentially behind other women.

[smackie9]

it is what it is. Accessibility to the masses is acceptability to the losers, jerks, nut jobs, weirdos, etc.

[mystikmind2005]

When i was first using OLD i was always polite to reply etc etc

 

two things wear me down to become someone just like him these days;

 

1) this exact behavior constantly from women.

2) putting in lots of effort is very time consuming and wears you down over time, so you start cutting corners/minimizing allot just to keep your sanity, i think that is where this guy is at?

[introverted1]

You're in a store. You see a shirt. You pick it up. You like it but there's somethng not quite right about it. Maybe the color is wrong, or the cut is off, or the price is too high.

 

You move to another rack, look at other shirts. You don't like any of those, either.

 

You come back to the first shirt, look at it in different light. Nope, it's still not begging to be taken to the register.

 

You look at some more shirts...

 

OLD is filled with shirts.

[Zippy2000]

Nothing really to it. I done it before. Talked to someone and had a change of heart, mind or got distracted by someone else.

 

Don`t try to rationalise other peoples actions. Its yours that matter.

[KatZee]

When I was OLD I did this as well. Not really intentional but some take priority over others. I notice that I can only juggle about 2-3 people, especially when it transfers from the OLD site, to texting. I can only focus on a couple people at any given time and the one's I was chatting with take a back seat and kind of drop off.

[angel.eyes]

He learned enough from the exchange to decide you weren't a good fit for him and stopped responding. Your new pictures showed up on his feed. He clicked on them, realized who you were, remembered that you weren't a good fit for him, and moved on to click on the next profile.

 

There are a lot of other possible reasons, but this tends to be a common one.

 

Every guy walking down the street isn't going to be a good fit for you. Online is no different. Most profiles we click on, won't be what we are looking for. Have you sent messages to every single profile you saw? This is no different.

[xcupid]

They come. They go. That's the nature of OLD.

[NoLeafClover]

Never heard of old

[losangelena]

Never heard of old

 

OnLine Dating, dude. OLD

[newt]

And we can't forget that just because someone is online doesn't mean they are single so we definitely can't take it too seriously.

[mystikmind2005]

And we can't forget that just because someone is online doesn't mean they are single so we definitely can't take it too seriously.

 

Online or in real life!

 

But at least in real life you can tell which sex they are (mostly) and which country they are 'really' in!! lol

[NoLeafClover]

OnLine Dating, dude. OLD

 

Thought it was an acronym for online dating website..like pof or okc

[mystikmind2005]

Thought it was an acronym for online dating website..like pof or okc

 

Well, yes, it is blatantly obvious to anyone with half a brain it should mean it is a dating website for 'old' people, but lets put logic aside and use the term to describe online dating shall we? Cool, glad we all agree

[RedRobin]

If it bugs you when they look at your profile, then just block them. That's pretty much what I do to every guy who looks at my profile that I am not interested in. I am not there for eye candy or to help them find other women like me.

[Bobbi7]

Yeah, it's pathetic that guys do this! My god, the only thing they bitch about is how "hard" they have it and that women are picky and are looking for rich men, but when a woman actually messages them back that's showing interest, they do the common flaking out and just enjoy wasting time! Geez, it's like they just message women for the heck of it. At least for me-when I take the time to message a guy it's because I actually want to get to know them and meet up, I don't just message a guy for the heck of it.

[angel.eyes]

So Bobbi7, you respond to every message you get? You are willing to date EVERY guy who messages you?

[Redhead14]

So I messaged someone on OLD with no questions, just a nice remark, and he replied back with two open ended questions. I replied back with the answers and asked him some questions, and he decided not reply back. It was 4 days ago and I've seen him online everyday when I log on. Then yesterday I updated my profile and added new pictures. This morning I saw that he looked at my profile. Why do they do this if they weren't interested enough to respond back? Does it mean anything? Slightly interested? Ugh, I hate OLD because I am old. haha

 

Because either they are browsing so many profiles that they forget who is who and/or he's weighing options and trying to make a decision about who to keep in touch with.

 

Don't you ever go back to profiles or look at them again to refresh your memory or simply read again?

[Toodaloo]

So Bobbi7, you respond to every message you get? You are willing to date EVERY guy who messages you?

 

Read her threads and the mess she gets into and you will see the answer is yes.

 

I have actually asked a couple of guys why they do this. Answers vary;

 

1. Pictures are pretty and like looking at them

2. Revisiting to read again

3. Accidental click

4. On the bench about whether to correspond or not

5. Don't know how to reply and trying to find inspiration

6. Got several dates lined up already and no time to ask out just yet but may want to

7. Want you to see that they are looking in the hope you will do something about it because they are shy

8. Want to ask you out but Grandma just died, house fire, crashed car or some other disaster that needs dealing with has just happened

9. Like you but know that you are not going to get along

10. Already talking to a few and its getting confusing as to who is who already with out adding another.

[kendahke]

You're in a store. You see a shirt. You pick it up. You like it but there's somethng not quite right about it. Maybe the color is wrong, or the cut is off, or the price is too high.

 

You move to another rack, look at other shirts. You don't like any of those, either.

 

You come back to the first shirt, look at it in different light. Nope, it's still not begging to be taken to the register.

 

You look at some more shirts...

 

OLD is filled with shirts.

 

this is the perfect analysis of OLD. Well said, introverted.

[Redhead14]

So I messaged someone on OLD with no questions, just a nice remark, and he replied back with two open ended questions. I replied back with the answers and asked him some questions, and he decided not reply back. It was 4 days ago and I've seen him online everyday when I log on. Then yesterday I updated my profile and added new pictures. This morning I saw that he looked at my profile. Why do they do this if they weren't interested enough to respond back? Does it mean anything? Slightly interested? Ugh, I hate OLD because I am old. haha

 

I just don't get all the mind-f*cking people do because of insignificant things. So what if he didn't respond or message you again and looked at your profile? Looking at a profile obligates them in some way?

 

Slightly interested? -- Maybe. If you think he's even slightly interested, what are you going to do? Start messaging him again? Don't do it. If he's interested enough, he will reach out. In the meantime, you look at profiles and message the guys who interest you.

[Bobbi7]

So Bobbi7, you respond to every message you get? You are willing to date EVERY guy who messages you?

 

No, I don't respond to EVERY message I get. Did I say that? NO. I only message back the guys that I have interest in. About the majority of them I block them, duh. I message back the guys I have interest, then like the OP originally said, they log on, don't message for days, look the profile and never reply back. Guys enjoy wasting time. Why the heck do thy take the time to message a female when they will just ignore her? Geez. Obviously, guys bitch about how had they have it, how they don't get no responses, how short they are, how poor they are, and when someone actually shows interest, they blow her off because they think they can find something better. At least focus on one person!!!!

[kendahke]

take it for what it's worth... OLD is truly a crap shoot.

 

Plenty of men that I've messaged just looked at my profile and kept on moving. I'd drive myself nuts trying to figure out the whys. It all boils down to they don't have enough interest to build the critical mass needed for them to move into action. I"m that way with a lot of inquiries I see. There is something that is said in the profile where they will look at updates, but don't want to engage.

Edited December 3, 2015 by kendahke

[Redhead14]

To me, people viewing profiles is like walking past someone on the street . . . you look, you keep walking.