marco1ca Posted December 2, 2015 Posted December 2, 2015 Long story short.. was in intense relationship for a couple years with several break-ups. We would get back together within a couple weeks after every breakup, like 6 times. Recently it has been months. I didn't leave a door open this time as when she texted me soon after our last break-up, I was short in my reply. This band is playing this Saturday that she knows I like and know the members. So, after months, she texts me that she is going to the club this Saturday, that she is not sure if I am going that if I am she would see me there. She said, If I am and dating, it wouldn't bother her if I brought her along. Not sure how to read into this. thanks
Nickr3023 Posted December 2, 2015 Posted December 2, 2015 Wants to just keep you on the hook, see if you're still into her.....boost her ego a little bit. I'd avoid that situation like the plague and just ignore her at this point. 1
mightycpa Posted December 2, 2015 Posted December 2, 2015 Long story short.. was in intense relationship for a couple years with several break-ups. We would get back together within a couple weeks after every breakup, like 6 times. Recently it has been months. I didn't leave a door open this time as when she texted me soon after our last break-up, I was short in my reply. This band is playing this Saturday that she knows I like and know the members. So, after months, she texts me that she is going to the club this Saturday, that she is not sure if I am going that if I am she would see me there. She said, If I am and dating, it wouldn't bother her if I brought her along. Not sure how to read into this. thanksI think it means that she's coming with somebody she's dating, but I don't get the sense that she's really serious with him yet.
Author marco1ca Posted December 2, 2015 Author Posted December 2, 2015 I think it means that she's coming with somebody she's dating, but I don't get the sense that she's really serious with him yet. I think you're both right. I wasn't really planning on going anyway as I had something else to do, so, I'll just keep her guessing on whether I"m seeing someone or not at this point.
Ic1 Posted December 2, 2015 Posted December 2, 2015 So, after months, she texts me that she is going to the club this Saturday, that she is not sure if I am going that if I am she would see me there. She said, If I am and dating, it wouldn't bother her if I brought her along. Wow, that is a confusing one. If you're dating someone, she would want to come along with her? (eg You'd be going with a date and you ex)
SoThatHappened Posted December 3, 2015 Posted December 3, 2015 More importantly: six (6) breakups in 2 years?! Maybe figure that problem out first. Also, it sounds, honestly, like she's trying to find out if you're single. It sounds like she's ready to get back. If so, see my response above and really think about why you breakup every 4 months on average.
Chelsea5019 Posted December 3, 2015 Posted December 3, 2015 It may mean that she has detached enough to be able to see you with someone else, but is still attached enough to reach out and anticipate a friendly encounter. Alternatively, she may be pining for you at least a little and is indirectly asking whether you will be there and whether she should be prepared to see you with someone else. In either case, the ball is in your court now so the question is, what do you want?
EgoJoe Posted December 3, 2015 Posted December 3, 2015 When someone questions your investment they question your intelligence. She was attempting to victimize you emotionally. Whether she succeeds or not is up to you. I'd answer with a polite dismissal. "Have fun!" Would work just as easily as saying nothing. That is your decision. Own it.
Author marco1ca Posted December 3, 2015 Author Posted December 3, 2015 (edited) Wow, that is a confusing one. If you're dating someone, she would want to come along with her? (eg You'd be going with a date and you ex) More importantly: six (6) breakups in 2 years?! Maybe figure that problem out first. Also, it sounds, honestly, like she's trying to find out if you're single. It sounds like she's ready to get back. If so, see my response above and really think about why you breakup every 4 months on average. It may mean that she has detached enough to be able to see you with someone else, but is still attached enough to reach out and anticipate a friendly encounter. Alternatively, she may be pining for you at least a little and is indirectly asking whether you will be there and whether she should be prepared to see you with someone else. In either case, the ball is in your court now so the question is, what do you want? When someone questions your investment they question your intelligence. She was attempting to victimize you emotionally. Whether she succeeds or not is up to you. I'd answer with a polite dismissal. "Have fun!" Would work just as easily as saying nothing. That is your decision. Own it. Thanks everyone, As far as the frequent breakups, whenever there was a problem, she would run instead of working it out. I've never chased her afterward and always wished her well. She would obviously miss me and get back, and yes, I allowed it. She has some amazing qualities that I have yet to find in anyone else which is why I"ve allowed her back in. However, this time I'm just tired. I haven't been mean, but I didn't leave the door open when she contacted soon after the last break-up. She seemed to get the message as NC for a couple months. I then get this text. She's much younger than me, attractive and can have her pick with most guys so I"m wondering if it's just the fact I never contact her after a breakup that keeps her intrigued with me or is it my qualities and good heart she misses, I don't know, but I do know I don't want the same pattern repeated anymore. Edited December 3, 2015 by marco1ca
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