Yummm Posted December 2, 2015 Posted December 2, 2015 Hey guys! So I've been chatting to a girl for a few weeks from OLD. She seems to really want to meet me but she flaked twice (apparently) due to her parents going through a divorce and the timing just hasn't been right. She insisted on meeting me tomorrow, but doesn't feel like going out and wants to make up for all the flaking by cooking me dinner at her place. It's abit strange for me for a first date, although we have got along via text/phone over the last few weeks. She doesn't seem like the type of girl who just wants to lay out and that's not what I want either. I'm going ahead with it, it'll be an experience and i'm genuinely excited which is a first! Going to bring a rose and chocolates as romance clearly isn't dead with her. What do you guys think? I don't want to be convinced to change my mind about going, but rather what's more experienced people's thoughts about being invited to a woman's house for a home cooked meal on a FIRST date. Thank you
Glitters Posted December 2, 2015 Posted December 2, 2015 I would suggest to take it just the way it is. Don't look more into it. 1
clia Posted December 2, 2015 Posted December 2, 2015 I personally would not go to a stranger's house for a first date. I don't care how long we've been texting or talking on the phone, I still don't know the person. Aside from potential safety issues, I think it would also be awkward. 4
Author Yummm Posted December 2, 2015 Author Posted December 2, 2015 Hahaha getting me scared guys! Yeah it's a weird one for me too, but seems genuine. I have some mutual friends who have said that she's really lovely and sweet which made me more comfortable with the idea. Hmmmm - I'm still going
PegNosePete Posted December 2, 2015 Posted December 2, 2015 Good luck. I'll be watching out for you on the nightly news. 3
Gaeta Posted December 2, 2015 Posted December 2, 2015 Hahaha getting me scared guys! Yeah it's a weird one for me too, but seems genuine. I have some mutual friends who have said that she's really lovely and sweet which made me more comfortable with the idea. Hmmmm - I'm still going Seems genuine?? You don't know her. She could very well put something in your food to knock you out then get away with all of your debit and credit cards and you'll wake up naked in a dark cold alley. C'mon be smarter than that !!!
LoveRefreshed Posted December 2, 2015 Posted December 2, 2015 I'd go. If you know she's a girl and doesn't seem shady, I'd go. I'd go hoping for date rape even. But that's me.
Redhead14 Posted December 2, 2015 Posted December 2, 2015 Hey guys! So I've been chatting to a girl for a few weeks from OLD. She seems to really want to meet me but she flaked twice (apparently) due to her parents going through a divorce and the timing just hasn't been right. She insisted on meeting me tomorrow, but doesn't feel like going out and wants to make up for all the flaking by cooking me dinner at her place. It's abit strange for me for a first date, although we have got along via text/phone over the last few weeks. She doesn't seem like the type of girl who just wants to lay out and that's not what I want either. I'm going ahead with it, it'll be an experience and i'm genuinely excited which is a first! Going to bring a rose and chocolates as romance clearly isn't dead with her. What do you guys think? I don't want to be convinced to change my mind about going, but rather what's more experienced people's thoughts about being invited to a woman's house for a home cooked meal on a FIRST date. Thank you You should never meet an OLD "date" for the first time in a private setting. It should always be public. You do not know who you are dealing with yet. I would insist on taking her out perhaps another day when she does feel like going out. This is a matter of safety for women and men alike. First meeting from OLD should always be public and fairly short. Coffee or a couple of drinks just to confirm that they are who they say they are and look like their pictures, etc. and to decide whether there's enough interest to go on a "real" date. You don't spend alot of money for dinner, movie, whatever on this. 1
PegNosePete Posted December 2, 2015 Posted December 2, 2015 I'd go hoping for date rape even. But that's me. By her big brother and his 6 mates...? 2
LoveRefreshed Posted December 2, 2015 Posted December 2, 2015 By her big brother and his 6 mates...? Different strokes.
Islander19 Posted December 2, 2015 Posted December 2, 2015 I've done it a few times and I would t recommend it. Not so much for the safety issues, although that is something to consider I guess. I've just found its always been a little awkward. Inviting someone over usually as certain implications, but it's also a first date so you don't want to come on too strong. So I always ended confused what was expected of me. Needless to say these encounters never resulted in a second date. Good luck though.
Author Yummm Posted December 2, 2015 Author Posted December 2, 2015 Seems genuine?? You don't know her. She could very well put something in your food to knock you out then get away with all of your debit and credit cards and you'll wake up naked in a dark cold alley. C'mon be smarter than that !!! Haha you made me chuckle! Listen, I agree, it's not the smartest but hey, I have enough friends who know her and have seen her on webcam/spoken to her enough to know that she seems genuine. I'm not worried about losing my cards or getting spiked, I'll take my chances with this one - I've just heard that first dates like this can actually be nice, means that someone is comfortable with accepting you into their personal space or perhaps they want to feel more comfortable during the date - has anyone else had any first dates at the ladies house?
Gaeta Posted December 2, 2015 Posted December 2, 2015 Haha you made me chuckle! Listen, I agree, it's not the smartest but hey, I have enough friends who know her and have seen her on webcam/spoken to her enough to know that she seems genuine. I'm not worried about losing my cards or getting spiked, I'll take my chances with this one - I've just heard that first dates like this can actually be nice, means that someone is comfortable with accepting you into their personal space or perhaps they want to feel more comfortable during the date - has anyone else had any first dates at the ladies house? What does it say about her? When you sit there in her living room ask yourself how many online men she invited in like this for a first meet. When you lay on her bed try not to lay on her comforter, it's probably as bad as a hotel comforter I have male friends who did go to women's house for 1st meet. These women wanted to get laid, some were prostitutes and told him their price last minute when the D was already hard. Best way to catch a customer.
Redhead14 Posted December 2, 2015 Posted December 2, 2015 but rather what's more experienced people's thoughts about being invited to a woman's house for a home cooked meal on a FIRST date. I only have one thought really -- IT'S A BAD IDEA. But . . . Either 1) she's very young and clueless and unconcerned for her own safety and/or will put out regardless of how she "seems" and then maybe cry rape or she'll stalk you 2) She's desperate to have a man so she's cooking you a meal -- the way to a man's heart is through his stomach. And, then when you back off, she will make you another meal -- she will boil the family rabbit for you . . . and she'll stalk you OR _________ you fill in the blank.
Author Yummm Posted December 2, 2015 Author Posted December 2, 2015 Firstly, i'm not looking for a hook up, so if it turns out to be like Gaeta says then atleast I know that's all she wants and can move on from there. Yeah, she's young. I'm used to dating women older than me to no avail, so you could be right. Jheez, if I go on that date tomorrow and it turns out to be successful what will you guys say? On the other hand, if I don't reply to this thread by Friday morning please call the five-o Thanks guys xo much love 1
Redhead14 Posted December 2, 2015 Posted December 2, 2015 Firstly, i'm not looking for a hook up, so if it turns out to be like Gaeta says then atleast I know that's all she wants and can move on from there. Yeah, she's young. I'm used to dating women older than me to no avail, so you could be right. Jheez, if I go on that date tomorrow and it turns out to be successful what will you guys say? On the other hand, if I don't reply to this thread by Friday morning please call the five-o Thanks guys xo much love Jheez, if I go on that date tomorrow and it turns out to be successful what will you guys say? -- Successful? You mean if it turns into something? If that happens, come back here in about 2 months and give us an update. 1
AspenBaldwin Posted December 2, 2015 Posted December 2, 2015 Doesn't matter if you are a boy or a girl. First meetings should always be held at a public place. 1
Redhead14 Posted December 2, 2015 Posted December 2, 2015 Leave your wallet in the car and keep your keys handy . . . 2
AspenBaldwin Posted December 2, 2015 Posted December 2, 2015 Seems genuine?? You don't know her. She could very well put something in your food to knock you out then get away with all of your debit and credit cards and you'll wake up naked in a dark cold alley. but rather what's more experienced people's thoughts about being invited to a woman's house for a home cooked meal on a FIRST date. I only have one thought really -- IT'S A BAD IDEA. But . . . Either 1) she's very young and clueless and unconcerned for her own safety and/or will put out regardless of how she "seems" and then maybe cry rape or she'll stalk you 2) She's desperate to have a man so she's cooking you a meal -- the way to a man's heart is through his stomach. And, then when you back off, she will make you another meal -- she will boil the family rabbit for you . . . and she'll stalk you OR _________ you fill in the blank. She could also drug him to steal his sperm and get child support.
oberkeat Posted December 2, 2015 Posted December 2, 2015 Hey guys! So I've been chatting to a girl for a few weeks from OLD. She seems to really want to meet me but she flaked twice (apparently) due to her parents going through a divorce and the timing just hasn't been right. She insisted on meeting me tomorrow, but doesn't feel like going out and wants to make up for all the flaking by cooking me dinner at her place. It's abit strange for me for a first date, although we have got along via text/phone over the last few weeks. She doesn't seem like the type of girl who just wants to lay out and that's not what I want either. I'm going ahead with it, it'll be an experience and i'm genuinely excited which is a first! Going to bring a rose and chocolates as romance clearly isn't dead with her. What do you guys think? I don't want to be convinced to change my mind about going, but rather what's more experienced people's thoughts about being invited to a woman's house for a home cooked meal on a FIRST date. Thank you I have been over to a woman's house on a first date (we went to an exhibit, then a movie, then went back to her place and had sex.) But I've never heard of a woman inviting a guy over just to prepare dinner for him on the first date. I would think she is desperate. 2
Gaeta Posted December 2, 2015 Posted December 2, 2015 I have been over to a woman's house on a first date (we went to an exhibit, then a movie, then went back to her place and had sex.) But I've never heard of a woman inviting a guy over just to prepare dinner for him on the first date. I would think she is desperate. Actually each time a man invited me over to his house for a first meeting it did not give me an impression of desperation, no, it gave me an impression of laziness. I would think how lazy can you be if you can't find in you the motivation to put a pair of clean pants on and drive 3km to meet me.
d0nnivain Posted December 2, 2015 Posted December 2, 2015 I have some mutual friends who have said that she's really lovely and sweet which made me more comfortable with the idea. Listen, I agree, it's not the smartest but hey, I have enough friends who know her and have seen her on webcam/spoken to her enough to know that she seems genuine. I'm not worried about losing my cards or getting spiked, I'll take my chances with this one - I've just heard that first dates like this can actually be nice, means that someone is comfortable with accepting you into their personal space or perhaps they want to feel more comfortable during the date - has anyone else had any first dates at the ladies house? Jheez, if I go on that date tomorrow and it turns out to be successful what will you guys say? On the other hand, if I don't reply to this thread by Friday morning please call the five-o Only because you have actual friends in common, I'm less concerned about your safety but it is a really odd move on her part, inviting a relative stranger into her home. I think you should go. Even though you made a joke about us here on LS calling the police, you need to have someone IRL be aware of your activities. I'd designate somebody that you need to check in with at the end of your date. I'd text them a photo of her house when you arrive too. Better safe then sorry. Hope it works out. As for your plan to bring a rose & chocolates, lovely sentiment. Bit of an over kill. I'd bring a seasonal plant like a pointsetta . . . still sweet not so much in your face with the romance. 1
introverted1 Posted December 2, 2015 Posted December 2, 2015 Seems genuine?? You don't know her. She could very well put something in your food to knock you out then get away with all of your debit and credit cards and you'll wake up naked in a dark cold alley. Minus a kidney! Sorry, couldn't resist. Seriously, OP, I don't think it's safe for either gender to go to a stranger's house on the first date. 1
xcupid Posted December 3, 2015 Posted December 3, 2015 Why overthink this? Just go for it. Good idea with romancing her. Good luck.
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