Jadey Posted May 29, 2005 Posted May 29, 2005 When doing NC? Does it make you feel proud that youre in control? Guilty? Sad? Relief? Abit of everything? What are your thoughts and feelings while NC? And why do you do NC? Is it just to get over them? Just curious lol
johan Posted May 29, 2005 Posted May 29, 2005 Does it make you feel proud that youre in control? It doesn't make me proud that I'm in control. But I definitely feel miserable not being in control. It's a way to avoid feeling that much worse. What are your thoughts and feelings while NC? I generally think "why the hell isn't she calling me?". I usually think back over the events that caused the breakup, and I gradually blame myself more and her less. Eventually I reach a point where I feel I should get in touch and discuss it. Sometimes I get reminded of what she did that was so annoying in the first place, and we resume the cold war. Or else we work it out. And why do you do NC? Is it just to get over them? I do it either because I need time with my thoughts or because it hurts too much to talk. Occasionally I do it because I'm trying to force her to come to me for a change, which doesn't feel good whether she does or not. If it's a serious breakup, I do it because I can't stand the sound of a woman's voice when it has no love in it.
Author Jadey Posted May 29, 2005 Author Posted May 29, 2005 Argh guys i need your older wisom Theres a guy im friends with who is interested in me in a romantic way. Ive been spending lots of time with him lately which is cool, he helps me keep my mind off things for abit. But ive told him where he satnds, i told him im not ready for a romantic relationship and that i still love the ex and wnt him back. He says hes ok with it. So last night he asked if he could come round. And if he could stay the night as he wouldnt beable to get a lift home and hasnt got enought money for a taxi. So i asked mum and she said he could stay in the spare room. He also said how he didnt want to put too much preassure on me by spending lots of time together as im still in love with EBF. And said that he wouldnt come round if i didnt want. So i text him, "its ok i dont care what he gets up to anymore, im yours for tonight. My mum said you can sleep, hehe. Jadey x0x0x0x PS. dont forget to bring you know what! ;)" ("you know what is not what it sounds like, its nothing sexual, its just a personal joke of ours, and he gets it.) And guess what.. I was thinking of EXBF (no suprise there then!) And i press send, after i realise i sent it to my ****ing ex!!! I cant believe it. (this was last night btw) Hes gonna think im sleeping with this guy And hes already under the impression i have a new BF. ****. Hes never gonna want me back now, is he?? After i sent it i was panicking and just sent one back to the ex saying "erm, woops wrong person! lmao" I didnt know what else to do. I cant believe this. Is this a really bad thing? I feel so guilty now. Hes never gonna want me. Hes gonna think i am over him. Some people ive talked to about it says it may be a good thing. I dont see how. Grr, need support!
johan Posted May 29, 2005 Posted May 29, 2005 What a bummer. I have no advice as to how you can fix it. Next time pay attention to who you're messaging, I guess. Some day you'll look back on this and laugh like I did while I read it. Don't worry about it, though. He's your ex. He's nothing to you now. It COULD get to him a little bit to think you're moving on. If he cared he could try to get in touch with you, and you might be able to work an explanation in then. Otherwise, I guess there's not a lot you can do, except to resolve to move on and be happy. Good luck.
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