Oregon_Dude Posted December 1, 2015 Posted December 1, 2015 I am attractive, educated, strong, have my life together, etc. I have guys lining up to date me and checking to see if I'm available.And incredibly humble, too!
Versacehottie Posted December 1, 2015 Posted December 1, 2015 I'm not talking two weeks in "Oh I love you baby! I can't wait until we're married" type things here. I'm thinking more along the lines of four to six months in of dating and ****ing, me asking the girl to be my gf and make it exclusive and she tells me I should be happy with what I have. I remember rolling over and facing the wall (this was just after we boned) and deciding she wasn't going to be it for me. She fell in love hard with me after that. I stopped asking for it and then she wanted it. By then, it was too late. I mean like two months in, telling them they're more than a bang buddy and you are starting to like them and they are wishy washy about going forward so I shut them out. When I stop asking for more, girls always want more. I've noticed with post coital snuggles. When I slide over after we're done and make no contact, its like the girls yearn for it. When I hold them after, it seems they could care less. Hmmm, definitely different than the scenario I painted. Wondering if the nice guy stuff still seeps through at the beginning in less direct ways? Making it more like you are a sure thing (as a bf). And then you do a complete about-face after they are wishy-washy so it's obvious that they need to do a hail mary! And perhaps you tend to like girls that are more fickle and self-absorbed? Maybe immature? I tend to think those types kind find themselves in what you and I would think is a relationship or headed there and they like the attention and don't really consider the implications in timely or appropriate way. Also a healthy amount of the push-pull is totally normal as far as I know. Things generally ebb and flow, I think. So try to be a bit less sensitive about it? 1
Maggie4 Posted December 2, 2015 Posted December 2, 2015 Hi, I'm sorry to hear you feel this way! I'm guessing here, that you are an emotionally available person. You're healthy. You may choose to express it, or choose to write someone off and stop expressing it, but it doesn't change who you are inside. Be glad that you are emotionally available, and have the capacity to love. As for showing vulnerability, sometimes when it takes effort to open up, you then have a higher expectation of the response you get, and you might become more sensitive. When you don't care, you become easier to please. 1
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