Hopeful30 Posted December 1, 2015 Posted December 1, 2015 Not all men are the flower-buying, lovey dovey type, but that doesn't mean they don't show their love and affections in other ways. Guys: what are some ways you show love/affection that women can miss?
LostOnes05 Posted December 1, 2015 Posted December 1, 2015 1) Flowers/favorite chocolate/ice cream (First line of defense lol) 2) Listening, but actually listening! 3) Being thoughtful (if I see something needs to be done, I don't wait for her to ask me to do it) 4) Supporting their goals 5) Very affectionate (I don't think there are too many things better than waking up the woman you love with hugs and kisses--morning breath sold separately) 6) Even calling them on their bullsh*t, not in a demeaning or hurtful way (although it may be initially taken that way) when necessary shows love. There are too many "yes men and women" out there who don't challenge their partner to be better and they become complacent. If I'm doing something detrimental to my goals or not doing my part in the relationship, I'd rather my gf/wife be upfront with me so that I/WE can work on it together and vice versa. 4
loveweary11 Posted December 3, 2015 Posted December 3, 2015 A lot of men show their love by working hard and supporting the family, only to have the woman miss it, thinking he's not wanting to spend time with her. Common problem. 1
KatZee Posted December 3, 2015 Posted December 3, 2015 1) Flowers/favorite chocolate/ice cream (First line of defense lol) 2) Listening, but actually listening! 3) Being thoughtful (if I see something needs to be done, I don't wait for her to ask me to do it) 4) Supporting their goals 5) Very affectionate (I don't think there are too many things better than waking up the woman you love with hugs and kisses--morning breath sold separately) 6) Even calling them on their bullsh*t, not in a demeaning or hurtful way (although it may be initially taken that way) when necessary shows love. There are too many "yes men and women" out there who don't challenge their partner to be better and they become complacent. If I'm doing something detrimental to my goals or not doing my part in the relationship, I'd rather my gf/wife be upfront with me so that I/WE can work on it together and vice versa. I think you misread the question.
123321 Posted December 3, 2015 Posted December 3, 2015 Guys: what are some ways you show love/affection that women can miss? I went to the office every weekday so she could have all the things she asked for. 1
carhill Posted December 3, 2015 Posted December 3, 2015 Guys: what are some ways you show love/affection that women can miss? My exW generally thought my homemade cards to her were a bit hokey but she did come to value and depend on my ability with prose for cards we'd send out to others. This was back when handwritten stuff was more common. If I had to identify one line of actions which didn't seem to impact women I dated and mated with in my demographic, it would be what my father would have identified as 'gentlemanly behavior'. I guess that had a different meaning from generation to generation and I missed the memo. Oh well.
LostOnes05 Posted December 3, 2015 Posted December 3, 2015 (edited) 1) Flowers/favorite chocolate/ice cream (First line of defense lol) 2) Listening, but actually listening! 3) Being thoughtful (if I see something needs to be done, I don't wait for her to ask me to do it) 4) Supporting their goals 5) Very affectionate (I don't think there are too many things better than waking up the woman you love with hugs and kisses--morning breath sold separately) 6) Even calling them on their bullsh*t, not in a demeaning or hurtful way (although it may be initially taken that way) when necessary shows love. There are too many "yes men and women" out there who don't challenge their partner to be better and they become complacent. If I'm doing something detrimental to my goals or not doing my part in the relationship, I'd rather my gf/wife be upfront with me so that I/WE can work on it together and vice versa. I think you misread the question. Haha, nah I didn't. Trust me women have misinterpreted these actions from me to the high hills. Or maybe just looking for arguments, I don't know...I guess I wrote my response in away that didn't show the negative response I got for those actions so I understand where you're coming from. 1) A woman got extremely upset about me wanting to send her flowers. She was having a rough week...She later apologized...I decided not to send them. 2) I was listening to what she said from the start, so when she lied to me and contradicted herself I let her know. From conversations we previously had she started to change up her stories. That one didn't like the fact that I listened to every word she said and remembered (I was interested in her after all). 3) I saw a sink full of dirty dishes and on the counter so I began to wash them. She became angry and didn't want my help. 4) She was taking some course and having a tough time. I tried to help her study...she got upset and yelled at me for it. This after I made sure she had the book she was looking for. 5) Woke her up with kisses and pulled her in close...she was pissed because she wasn't a morning person allegedly. Argued at me for taking most of the grocery to the car, holding the door for her, calling to say goodnight once etc. 6) Now this is the killer...Said woman was making up things to argue about (see #5) and I called her on it. She hung up on me, snapped at me, and then said she don't call or text her...she texted me the next morning..I didn't respond. So, yeah...it's happened believe it or not. These were only two of the women I have seen in the past. Hence, why I'm single I guess. Edited December 3, 2015 by LostOnes05 1
mrs rubble Posted December 3, 2015 Posted December 3, 2015 Haha, nah I didn't. Trust me women have misinterpreted these actions from me to the high hills. Or maybe just looking for arguments, I don't know...I guess I wrote my response in away that didn't show the negative response I got for those actions so I understand where you're coming from. 1) A woman got extremely upset about me wanting to send her flowers. She was having a rough week...She later apologized...I decided not to send them. 2) I was listening to what she said from the start, so when she lied to me and contradicted herself I let her know. From conversations we previously had she started to change up her stories. That one didn't like the fact that I listened to every word she said and remembered (I was interested in her after all). 3) I saw a sink full of dirty dishes and on the counter so I began to wash them. She became angry and didn't want my help. 4) She was taking some course and having a tough time. I tried to help her study...she got upset and yelled at me for it. This after I made sure she had the book she was looking for. 5) Woke her up with kisses and pulled her in close...she was pissed because she wasn't a morning person allegedly. Argued at me for taking most of the grocery to the car, holding the door for her, calling to say goodnight once etc. 6) Now this is the killer...Said woman was making up things to argue about (see #5) and I called her on it. She hung up on me, snapped at me, and then said she don't call or text her...she texted me the next morning..I didn't respond. So, yeah...it's happened believe it or not. These were only two of the women I have seen in the past. Hence, why I'm single I guess. A little appreciation goes a long way. You deserve to find a lovely woman..don't give up! 1
LostOnes05 Posted December 3, 2015 Posted December 3, 2015 A little appreciation goes a long way. You deserve to find a lovely woman..don't give up! Thanks, I really appreciate that. 1
carhill Posted December 3, 2015 Posted December 3, 2015 One thing the process taught me, and MC helped, was to 'show love' for me, not for them. The gift is in the giving, not the acknowledgment. 1
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