marg33 Posted May 28, 2005 Posted May 28, 2005 Need some advice, I just broke up with my LT BF due to lack of commitment I told him that our priorities are different and that it wouldn't work if we both do not want the same things...Well I'm so confused, he keeps calling me and talking to me like nothing happened, what should I make out of these calls, I don't want to stop communication, but do you think he wants it to work out??? I'm so confused, if anyone can give advice as what I should do, and how to read into this. it would be greatful!!
LucreziaBorgia Posted May 28, 2005 Posted May 28, 2005 I don't want to stop communication, but do you think he wants it to work out??? There's nothing wrong with continuing contact with him as long as you are under the understanding that he misses you, and not necessarily the relationship he had with you. He may even miss the relationship you had, but it would be type of relationship you had before the commitment issues came up. He still may not be interested in the relationship that you hope to have with him, though. If you choose to keep talking to him, you'll need to understand that he's coming to you on his own terms and should those same issues come up again, he will likely back off again. The best option, if you want to continue with him is to enjoy what you have for what it is - and back off from the 'commitment discussions' for the time being - try to match his pace instead of trying to pull him forward into your pace. Perhaps more can come of it, but it will have to be done at a pace he is comfortable with - meaning, that it may or may not happen the way that you hope for. You'll have to decide whether to give up what you want in order to hold on to what you have - and you'll have to decide for yourself if that is a risk and investment of your time and emotions you are willing to take.
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