Redhead14 Posted December 2, 2015 Share Posted December 2, 2015 Thanks, I have. And sorry, for me it was callous but I grant you also pragmatic. Allow me the indulgence of rolling my eyes at him and dating in general. Here's the thing, there isn't anything wrong with a guy wanting/needing sex and looking for someone who wants the same thing. He could have gone down the whole let's string this one along, pour it on thick, ask her out a couple of times, see if she breaks down and when she does, I bail, etc. He didn't do that. He realized you weren't "there". So, he dropped it. Give credit where credit is due. 2 Link to post Share on other sites
Author LeslieKnope Posted December 2, 2015 Author Share Posted December 2, 2015 Here's the thing, there isn't anything wrong with a guy wanting/needing sex and looking for someone who wants the same thing. He could have gone down the whole let's string this one along, pour it on thick, ask her out a couple of times, see if she breaks down and when she does, I bail, etc. He didn't do that. He realized you weren't "there". So, he dropped it. Give credit where credit is due. See, I don't have any problem with that either (and the last thing I want people to think is that I'm anti-sex, even after one date!). But his profile - and I acknowledge you shouldn't always believe what you read - and my interactions with him previous to the date suggested he was looking to date with the potential of a relationship down the road. Not casual sex. So I found it to be false advertising. Yeah, it's online dating - it comes with the package. And perhaps I am making assumptions about him. It honestly doesn't matter, I just wanted to start a new thread on the forum! Link to post Share on other sites
Redhead14 Posted December 2, 2015 Share Posted December 2, 2015 No one is going to say they want casual sex in a profile or even in conversation. It's not a good selling point Not only that, how do they know they won't happen to meet the "one" that they decide to try to move forward with towards a relationship. I think guys and women too, won't say they are looking for a relationship off the bat because sometimes the person they meet assumes right off the bat that it's going to be with them and get all clingy and jump into it. And, you can't/don't believe what you read and neither can they . . . I can't count the number of times on these boards, where a woman slept with a guy on a first date and came here and said "I don't know why I did that . . . I never do that . . . he was just so amazing, blah, blah, blah. And, I never heard from him again". All I'm saying is he knows women sometimes just go with the flow, so to speak, and they get lucky sometimes. They don't announce it, they just see where it goes. You stuck to your guns and that's really all you can do when you get the sense that the guy just wants sex. You're in control. I don't want you to become jaded about dating in general. Take things with a grain of salt. Link to post Share on other sites
RedRobin Posted December 2, 2015 Share Posted December 2, 2015 If he said he was looking for a relationship on his profile, then acted like he was just after sex, then I would say, yea... He's an *******. Blocking you doesn't mean he was just after sex though. Lots of guys act like jerks when I don't want another date with them, no matter how nicely I tell them... Easier to block rather than get some snarky email a few weeks later. Link to post Share on other sites
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