how do u deal when u cant b with the one u love?

[Da_1_n_OnlyN3na]

me and my ex went out for 2 months.....i felt like he was the perfect guy for me...he was everything i needed. and my longest relationship was 2 weeks..lol yea.i never felt that kind of strong feeling to make it work and last..untill he came along..i loved him so much and he tole me he loved me he said he was never gonna hurt me cuz he loved me he said he had never felt wut he felt 4 me b4..and guess wut? he never hurt me...but then one day came and his friend told me sum stuff that well got me very mad and i didnt know how to reacvt so i imed him and i told him alot of mean stuff that hurt him..al those things got him mad..and he read them and he said that how can i believ his friend and he said "wel u dumped me lest keep it that way" and he signed off after he told me alot of stuff ..and i was apolagizing cuz i realsed wut i did.. i didnt trust him i didnt go to him b4 and to c if all those things were true..one day he told me "when ever sumthing happens dont assume ask me b4 jumping to conclusions..trust me" but id dint do that i thought about wut he had said b4 and den i was wanting hjim bak.. but he said no u hurt me u didnt trust me u ****ed up not me...i didnt think u were like dis cindy i never thought u would say does things to me..i never thought u coulc hurt me like dis" and well later on after he signed off i called him up and i was trying to explaim to him that i was sorry and that yes i realised wut i did was wrong..but he wouldnt listen ..he told me he didnt want to talk to me 4 a while but i didnt let him get off the phone so he hung up...after that i started crying...it felt like sum one had stabbed me in my heart and den ripped it out and cut it into a bunch of peaces...the next day i found out that this gurl asked him out that nite we broke up and he said yes...dat hurt so much....well a couple of days later i didnt want to lose his friendship so i started talking to him...later a few days later.. we got in a big argument and we said alot of things to each other we cussed and said sum mean stuff...so we stopped talking for a while ..my friends kept getting into this and saying sum shyte to him..and i apoligized for that cuz i had enuff of em saying all that cuz i was trying to 4get about it..and wel since dat day we srtarted talking again..den like a month ago..i think he told me that he regret leeving me..he said dat i was a great gurl and dat he didnt regret getting with that gurl but that he should have thought about wut he did instead of hurting me.. and he said he should have never listened to his friends who were telling him that the other gurl was better cuz se lived closer and he could c her every day...he said that "the guy who gets that moment will b the luckiest guy on earth" that bcuz im a virgin...but i really wish that that lucky guy would b him...but it dont work lke dat....he was trying to c me again..he said that just bcuz we werent going out it didnt mean we couldnt chill...well we never did sumthing always happened ..he said that he was afraid he might do sumthing wrong and dat he didnt want to hurt hisgurl...and rii now him and his gurl r doing great...but he called me once last week and he told me that she was moving far and dat dey would have to break up if she moved...trust me that didnt make me happy..at all...he was happy and dats all i wanted for him..i wanted hi to b happy and i wanted da best 4 him..thast y now i hope she doesnt move.. dont want him sad..i love him.. i really do...i tried everything to 4get him..i stopped talking to him i erased him from my buddy list and ive blocked him..ive also tried to find another guy who would treat me rii and so i can move on.. but i cant..ders this one guy who is trying to talk to me but i dont feel nething 4 him...i cant 4get him.. i would do nething to b wit him. but i cant theres nuttin i can do...hes the one i wanna b with 4 the rest of my life..hes the one i want hes the best thing that ever happened to me...i miss him so much...i know im only 16 and i have a life ahead of me where i can lok for the rii one ... but i want him.. hes da one i wanna b with..hes da one i wanna grow old with and have kids and grandkids..lol..i wanna b wit him.. but i cant do nething about it.he loves his gurl and he 4got about me ...he dont love me nemore he 4got about me he doesnt care nemore...and ders nuttin i can do about it...i dont know if im ever gonna find another guy i dont know if im gonna end up loving the guy...but i know im not gonna love him like i love eric...hell always have a place n my heart that no one will replace....

[Curt]

I can tell you, from personal experience, that you have to embrace the happiness that knowing him gave you, and realize that for whatever reason, you were not to know him further.

 

It's the way life is sometimes... sometimes (for whatever reason,) you will connect with someone on some level. You will then lose that connection and both your paths will split off into new paths, with different people.

 

Accept it as the way things are meant to be, and move on. There are many people with whom we can have good friendships, and even relationships. There are, I believe, many fewer of those who we will connect with on a longterm, loving level. He was in your life for a season, not a lifetime.

 

Embrace the experience and move on... your heart, mind, and body will benefit from doing so.

 

Peace.

 

Curt

[Da_1_n_OnlyN3na]

i know.. i really want to 4get him i really dont want to think of him every morning as soon as i wake up or b4 i go to sleep.. i dont want to love him..it hurts 2 much.... ...i know that things happened 4 a reason..i know that..but if it wasnt ment to b y did i have to meet him.. y was he the only one i wanted lose my virginity to?(never did)....y did i choose him....i just wish i could c him one last time...just one..and feel his lips one last time and his hugs that i miss so much... i miss him so much.. i just wish that none of this would have ever happened....u know..i always get hurt..all the time.. i dont know y but i always do...he was the only one who never hurt me he treated me like a queen...omg...i felt like he was the one...i thought he was gonna come bak cuz my friend told me..but i had a feeling he wasnt..and it wasnt like dat..his gurl is perfect 4 him..she is der for him when ever he needs sum one to talk to or when ever he needs her...he sees her every day when he only saw me every weekend since we live a lil far..she lives closer to him...shes a beutiful gurl..and she even lost her virginity to him... ....yea..that shows she really loves him...i was supposed to get out of his life so they can b 2gether...y cant i b with him?...Y???? i love him...i dont want ne one else in my life..i want him... ..u know 2day his friend called me from erics house(my ex)...and he moved from erics school to mine cuz he had to move from his house..well weve been tyte like brother and sister...but 2day he told me he likes me... ...omg i dont like him like dat i thought we were brother and sister....he said he stopped smoking weed cuz he gets high....yea and i always told him to quit that bcuz that shyte can kill u..and well he told me he stopped for me...cuz he really likes me..omg..im like "ur crazy how can u say dat?"..but he says its true...and dis happened with erics other friend..who is his best friend..he told me he liked me also..he told me the day me and eric broke up..and y r his friends liking me?..omg..well everything that is happening dey r all signs..signs that he really isnt comming bak..signs that tell me..i really did lose him 4 good.... ...he told me one time that he saw me being with him 4 the rest of his life...he said i was all he wanted...he didnt have to look for nething else cuz i had it all..beauty, funny, sweetness, kind,caring,some one who he didnt think was going to hurt him or make him mad....he said he didnt c him ever breaking up wit me...but now look at us...every thing is just dust..its history its like a dream that i finally woke up from...

[Curt]

Moving on is what you need to do. If things were meant to be, they would likely have been. If it takes too much effort on either person's part, it is (and was) not something enduring.

 

Trust me on that one ... move on.

 

Curt

[Da_1_n_OnlyN3na]

i have tried to..i dont talk to him nemore..i try to not b online and 4get by doing other stuff and focusing on sumthing else.. and trust me it has work bcuz i focused more on my school grades and i am doing very good As and Bs lol...and everything is going good 4 me..nuttin wrong..doing good in school no problems...but i fel like im missing sumthing and dats him...no wonder they say "no one is perfect"...i may look like i have everything i want but i dont have the love of my life with me...i may seem happy cuz i hide it..i hide being sad...i dont try to show it to my friends or at school....they think i dont love him no more..they probably think i moved on...but only my cuzn knows i havent...

 

i am rite now trying hard to move on..but i cant stop thinking about him..every time moments come to my head when i was with him and the times we were together... it makes me so happy ..but then...i come to reality and ..its not tru..lol this might sound creepy but..one day i was in my bed trying to go to sleep except i was crying for him...and thinking of him...and well at that moment i saw his face...and den my face changed and i smiled and tried to touch his face but when i did..it was just air...there was nuttin...den i cried more... ....ive been trying to move on..but its so hard..

[Da_1_n_OnlyN3na]

do u think ur loved one comes bak after ur break up caused by one of his friends who he(ur ex) once told u he regret listening to and so did u...after a break up caused by a jump to conclusions and not thinking smartly before acting? and who now is dating another gurl who got him on the rebound and was there when he was mad and upset and needed some one to talk to...and who now he loves and everything is going great with her..except shes moving far and i guess they want to work it out like he said on his page..."through thick and thin" be together...?

 

i know this will b straight up "NO"..but im just wondering wut u think.....