chicagolove Posted December 1, 2015 Posted December 1, 2015 My previous relationships have all been fast paced, butterflies in stomach, sparks flying in the beginning.. but they all like clockwork seemed to hit a wall at around the 3rd year. Issues with cheating, lying, etc. I keep getting with these insecure, player, wannabe, 'bad' boys and I'm so over all of that. (Infatuation) But, I'm interested in this guy now; he's mild mannered, stable minded... normal! The only thing is I'm so over the lust and butterflies and infatuation in general that my attraction to him is beyond that stuff I think. I really don't feel any of the mushy stuff with him, I'm just excited to meet someone who I can hang out with and talk to minus the drama. I have a deep respect and interest in him. He seems the type that I'd want to build a life with and I could see myself growing old with him, I think! However, it seems that he may feel that lovey dovey butterfly stuff towards me. I let him know my mindset on love and relationships these days and he's fine with it, but I think when I mentioned it we kind of ended the conversation both seemingly under the impression that we'll just take it slow and eventually all of that other lovey stuff will come. But I really don't think I have it in me to get all giddy about him or ANY guy for that matter. Is this some type of flaw I've now obtained from being hurt so many times, or am I being realistic as to how a mature young woman should be approaching dating? We hung out a few times years ago, but recently about a month ago we've re-connected. We've never been sexually intimate or anything, and I have no desire for that right now, I just want to get to know him and see how we click. I know he's attracted to me in that way even just in the way he hugs me when we say goodbye. But it kind of gets to me because I'm not feeling that back towards him. Is that typical for someone who isn't the type to sleep with a guy right away? I'm not usually like this, Lol.
thecrucible Posted December 1, 2015 Posted December 1, 2015 Sometimes you meet a really great person who isn't a jerk but they feel more like a friend than a boyfriend even though they are good on paper. It's okay to feel that. You can also meet a good guy who you do feel enough attraction for. This guy isn't the 'be all; end all'.
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