How do you flirt/date with teenage girls?

[Vilgefoz]

Hallo,

 

before I start I would like to mention one issue to make it clear: I understand in U.S. legal age is 18+, in most EU countries it's 15+, in some countries (GE for instance) even 14. Dating, flirting with let's say 17 y.o. is in EU perfectly legal and socially acceptable, very common. So if you are from U.S., please do not feel offended by breaking your customs, because I am European. Thank you.

 

 

So, this year I met a couple of teenage women (mostly 17-19 y.o.) and it was all the same: they either liked me from the first sight, without any other reason than my look - regardless how I treated them (sometimes I was rather cynical to them, possibly rude when they kept comming back and didn't take my "no" as answer) - or they did not like me at all and I never even gave me a chance to speak to them.

 

My question is: is look really the very only factor with teenage girls or is there a possibility of other traits? Can you raise interest, date teenage women even though you are not physically her type? (which is usally very staightforward and demanding request).

 

 

(...just today I met one very nice girl at the gym - 8/10 - and even though she is rather smart and good personality, the moment she started to even suspecting me flirting with her she immediately stop talking to me. which is quite frustrating... Is there any cure for it?)

 

Thank you.

[Scarlett.O'hara]

From what I have read you are a 27 year old man. For many teenage girls your age would put them off dating you, even if they thought you were cute.

 

You could improve your chances by approaching women (not girls) who are closer to your own age.

[basil67]

I've got a teenage daughter. When it comes to dating, whe's all about personality, but he would need to be presentable.

 

However, if you are indeed 27, you wouldn't have a snowflake's chance in hell. Go for women your own age.

[TheBathWater]

Even if it's legal to do so, I imagine that a teenage girk who is dating a 27 year old male may be troubled and carrying some unresolved issues, such as trauma. Because the brain and body are literally underdeveloped at this stage of life, I can't imagine a mature relationship or interaction happening, even if it's strictly based around sex. The results could be quite disasterous. Most girls around that age prefer to date males their age or slightly older, but once you hit about 20 or 21 it can be strange. 27 years old is simply too much of a stretch, unless (again) there are unresolved issues involved on her end. I think you may have more success finding someone who is closer to your age.

Edited December 1, 2015 by TunaInTheBrine

[littlez360]

I fully understand where people are coming from with their posts here... I would never let such a thing happen to any of my nieces, nor my future daughters. But...lol... I'm 29 and certainly don't feel any guilt about the very attractive 18yo 2 weeks ago... well not because of her age anyways.

So yes, can a guy your age land girls that age, of course...

Some girls are just into older guys...

Most girls 18-21 for me... are pretty quickly a turn off for me once they start speaking. Some of them, and this is a rare breed, some of them are decades beyond most girls their age and it happens for me sometimes.

I would just learn how to use the "BLOCK" options on your phone and such before diving into that pool...

[BrocasHelm]

I had to reply to that when I saw your justification for dating teenage girls is that you're European. Yes it's okay in Europe for, say, a 22 y/o man to date a 17 y/o, five years age difference, fair enough. When you're 27 though, it's not okay. And I am European. Please go for girls who are at least 18.

[TaraMaiden2]

I'm European too. And frankly, I'm baffled by your introduction, because it's utter rubbish.

 

Quite apart from anything else (covered amply and appropriately, above), why on earth you would expect any serious 'commitment' or input from a teenager, is beyond me. At that age, most girls are flighty, flirtatious, and they tease - in company, when there is safety in numbers. On their own, they'd regard you as a creep, back oiff and have nothing to do with you. They may even go so far as to 'report' you for harassing them.....

 

And don't forget, at that age, their brains are not fully-formed, effective and functional. And that's a biological, anatomical fact.

so don't expect common sense and erudite discussion, or serious attention.

 

There is a cure, but you need to apply it to yourself, not them.

Quit chasing teenagers. You're nearly 30, and frankly, to them, you are way beyond decent material for dating.

You're 'old' and off-limits.

[ExpatInItaly]

I had to reply to that when I saw your justification for dating teenage girls is that you're European. Yes it's okay in Europe for, say, a 22 y/o man to date a 17 y/o, five years age difference, fair enough. When you're 27 though, it's not okay. And I am European. Please go for girls who are at least 18.

 

All of this. I also live in Europe and work directly with teenage girls. Most would find a 27-year-old hitting on them very awkward indeed. Don't go there, OP.

[Vilgefoz]

From what I have read you are a 27 year old man. For many teenage girls your age would put them off dating you, even if they thought you were cute.

 

You could improve your chances by approaching women (not girls) who are closer to your own age.

 

 

Yes I am 27. And I encountered several teenage women who clearly did not mind my age. Moreover it is a general fact women prefer older guys. When I was 19, I deeply fell in love with 26 y.o. woman.

 

For some reason... I have troubles encountering women closer to my age. Second, my social/monetary situation might not be too appealing for this kind of women as they might seek for stable partner and potentionally plan their future with. I am a hazardous player, in a few years I might make millions or end up utterly broke. Now I am the second one. So I rather avoid those who put expectations in me that I might fail. ( I work with early stage startups, i.e. environment where 95% of projects simply fail, never to see sunlight of profit and barely half of remaining 5% makes good money. Yet it's totally worth for me).

[Vilgefoz]

OK, I see I triggered some sort of inner hurt here.

 

First at all, I am not hitting on them, they are hitting on me. If they didn't show interest I would never even think of such issue.

 

Second, particularly for young people, it's perfectly normal having crush on older ones - this goes both for males and females. When I was their age, I naturally inclined to older women for their charisma and maybe experience. I can clearly see why would 17 y.o. be interested in a confident, mature person whith quite nice developed body and intelligent look in eyes.

 

Third and finally, you answered my question: in most cases they do not think at all, they are just driven mostly by instincts. After all I can remeber when I was in their age - I cared only for I want and barely noticed anybody who did not raise my interest.

 

 

Anyway, I will try to delete this thread as it ended up in needles flame and hate and I don't want to have anything with that.

 

 

 

Moderators, if you read this, please, delete this thread. It serves no good purpose. Thank you.

[William]

This thread closed at request of OP ~Thank you