Author eyeam Posted December 20, 2015 Author Posted December 20, 2015 I think the difference was, with this one.. I was probably trying a little to hard. Wanting it to much.. ..with my previous LTRs after our first date, I was indifferent for various reasons. Although they were both very beautiful. The first was 22.. I was 36 at the time. We clicked well and had fun, But i wasn't too fussed if we saw each other again (for obvious reasons) and I was very busy with my life at the time.. so I thought "meh". She would continue to reach out.. "when am I seeing you again Mr?" "can I see you?" etc etc. she did 100% of the pursuing and it sort of just happened. Anyway, we ended up in a 2 1/2 year relationship and were in love.. ironically age was never the problem. My last LTR. I was a month out of my previous and I walked into a coffee shop and saw this beautiful girl there (27) So, i thought WTH.. I need to start practising.. anyway, after our first date I thought.. "meh" its too soon after my last to care!? She texting me before I was even on the bus on the way home.. "next time we'll go for a meal?" "when am i seeing you again?" the next day morning the same... red flags. i had to tell her to slow down.. which she took offence too and turned a little bitchy (more red flags) But, i think I thought .. well I have nothing better to do.. and she's stunning and smart and we get on well... fast forward a year and for the first time in my life i was thinking of purposing. She was the love of my life. We eventually broke up because of petty insecurities and BS on her end.. and pride and stubbornness. Never been heart broken like that in my life time. just endless. At this point in my life i feel ready for a relationship again, someone new.. Which, is probably my problem
truth_seeker Posted December 20, 2015 Posted December 20, 2015 Thanks for the advice. People like to lie to themselves, when things are scarce. Here's a question: do you think it's better to wait for a lady to text first after a first date? Then you know fo sho right? I would say you text her first. If I like a woman, I'll text her telling her I had a great time and I want to see her again. I'll wait for a response. If I get it quickly, then I set a second date (this Saturday XYZ is playing at this club, I'll get two tickets. We can go here for dinner, etc...) If I don't like a woman after the first date, I'll send a text telling her it was nice meeting her but I felt there was no mutual interest. I like keeping it equal. I don't like to flat out reject someone, unless they're a complete jerk. By saying no mutual interest it comes across as I don't have interest in her, she doesn't have interest in me. We rejected each other. No one gets one-upped.
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