Pretty_HurtsU2 Posted November 30, 2015 Posted November 30, 2015 Together 3 years & he's making separate holiday plans. He said he's an introvert. He doesn't feel like seeing people, better known as my family. He wasn't an introvert at his friends weddings. There were 3. Or at his friends birthday parties. Or when he's out 3 nights a week. Or that time he flew to Atlanta to be with friends on Christmas. He's conveniently an introvert when it's time to spend some time with my family. I've been as supportive as I know how. There for him always. Willing to go wherever he asked me to go. I'm so angry. I shouldn't have been there for him. He didn't love me enough to spend a few hours with my family on a holiday. Said he can't be pressured into doing things he doesn't want to do. How self centered is that!?! He broke up with me. I should've done it first. I should've loved less. & im still willing to work things out. Maybe I don't like my family either lol lets not spend any time with them. How pathetic I sound...but I'd consider it if he'd want to be in love with me. I'm so angry.
Michelle ma Belle Posted December 1, 2015 Posted December 1, 2015 Sorry OP but I think you're right...he was an introvert when it was convenient for him. Takes all kinds unfortunately. Consider it a Christmas blessing to be rid of him. Now you have room for someone who is more deserving of what you have to offer. Good luck. 1
Wewon Posted December 1, 2015 Posted December 1, 2015 He's making excuses to not spend time with your family. And unknowingly he's creating a ton of resentment that will most likely change the nature of the relationship completely. I've had friends like this, they always had a goto excuse (introversion, disorganized, busy etc) that conveniently came and went depending on what was expected of them and what they could get in return. Its infuriating when you finally realize that you can no longer pretend that there isn't a pattern. This is what happens when someone is raised to know all of their "rights" but not how to reciprocate and be there for other people. Consider yourself better off without him.
anonymousbear00101100 Posted December 1, 2015 Posted December 1, 2015 (edited) He broke up with me. I should've done it first. I should've loved less. & im still willing to work things out. You were the giver in the relationship. You gave everything, and he took while giving little in return. And then he left you when you asked for your share, because you're all of a sudden "needy and selfish". This sounds a lot like my former relationship. I'm still trying to cope with the ego hit I took by not being the dumper. I know this part will hurt for the coming weeks, but it'll eventually disappear (I'm working on week 3, and it's starting to fade). There isn't much anyone can say to make you not feel the hurt, even if you logically know he wasn't right for you (because he wasn't). I try to comfort myself in the fact that there is definitely somebody, many people actually, out there willing to give as much to the relationship as they receive. You don't need this guy OP, you deserve a lot better. Edited December 1, 2015 by rjblak13
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