Musician1985 Posted November 30, 2015 Posted November 30, 2015 I had a date with a girl I met on OKC. We had been texting for 3 weeks (couldn't meet earlier - totally legit circumstances), and we had a date yesterday afternoon. We talked for almost three hours, and it seemed to go well. I want to reach out to her. I am thinking this evening. I already know that I want to text her that I had a nice time last night, and maybe ask her to get together, depending on her response. I have just been reading articles saying I should text her immediately, but my gut is telling me to give her a little time to breathe, because: a) she met me online, and I'm a complete stranger b) considering "a)", a three-hour talk like that can be quite a lot when starting from scratch, and I want to have it sink in for a little bit. When I started dating in the late 90's/early 00's, there was a three-day rule, but things kinda changed since texts came around. I am thinking of texting her tonight. Do you guys think that about 36 hours, considering the above situation, is a good amount of time to wait? Or should I do it sooner/later?
regine_phalange Posted November 30, 2015 Posted November 30, 2015 Sounds just great, you've left her space for a day (where she possibly daydreams of your date), and communicate soon enough to make her secure in your interest. 1
Redhead14 Posted November 30, 2015 Posted November 30, 2015 I had a date with a girl I met on OKC. We had been texting for 3 weeks (couldn't meet earlier - totally legit circumstances), and we had a date yesterday afternoon. We talked for almost three hours, and it seemed to go well. I want to reach out to her. I am thinking this evening. I already know that I want to text her that I had a nice time last night, and maybe ask her to get together, depending on her response. I have just been reading articles saying I should text her immediately, but my gut is telling me to give her a little time to breathe, because: a) she met me online, and I'm a complete stranger b) considering "a)", a three-hour talk like that can be quite a lot when starting from scratch, and I want to have it sink in for a little bit. When I started dating in the late 90's/early 00's, there was a three-day rule, but things kinda changed since texts came around. I am thinking of texting her tonight. Do you guys think that about 36 hours, considering the above situation, is a good amount of time to wait? Or should I do it sooner/later? You should do it sooner than later. I'd call her though and say you had a nice time with her and ask her for date. Be specific with plan, place, time. If she declines without offering an alternate, I'd move on.
Ic1 Posted November 30, 2015 Posted November 30, 2015 I would message her tomorrow morning. Don't do it ASAP because it'll show too much interest, and that's unattractive. Another way to put it; clingy, easy to get, or dependant on her. It would also give her time to think about her time with you. Basically, don't send a text an hour or two after saying bye. Let a relationship develop and grow. Not flash and disappear.
Author Musician1985 Posted November 30, 2015 Author Posted November 30, 2015 I would message her tomorrow morning. Don't do it ASAP because it'll show too much interest, and that's unattractive. Another way to put it; clingy, easy to get, or dependant on her. It would also give her time to think about her time with you. Basically, don't send a text an hour or two after saying bye. Let a relationship develop and grow. Not flash and disappear. So you mean about 48 hours after the date?
Author Musician1985 Posted November 30, 2015 Author Posted November 30, 2015 You should do it sooner than later. I'd call her though and say you had a nice time with her and ask her for date. Be specific with plan, place, time. If she declines without offering an alternate, I'd move on. Yes, about being specific, but I feel kind of equal forces between us. She seems strong, yet considerate of what I want, based on our conversation yesterday (though I understand the sample size is tiny). I'd like to also take her temperature, and then make a choice.
hippychick3 Posted November 30, 2015 Posted November 30, 2015 I would do it this evening. When a woman is interested, she wants to hear from the guy very soon after their date. Waiting too long indicates lack of interest to most women. 3
Ic1 Posted November 30, 2015 Posted November 30, 2015 So you mean about 48 hours after the date? Depends on how the date went and timing with schedules. Assuming mon-fri 9-5 schedules: You're afternoon date happened on saturday with a great time, send her a text sunday morning. 12 hours because it's all 'free time' for her. If it was an wednesday evening date, send her a text thursday after work or friday morning and see if she wants to do something friday night. 24-48 hours because it's the same amount of 'free time' as the sat-sun date. This is based on her having a certain amount of time to digest your time together.
mammasita Posted November 30, 2015 Posted November 30, 2015 I met my BF on POF. I actually texted him *OMG, the horror* right after our first date (within an hour) saying thank you and I had a great time. We haven't stopped texting since. It's been over 2 years. If you want to contact her, do it. 3
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