Guitaristangel Posted November 30, 2015 Posted November 30, 2015 I've posted on here before on what my breakup was back in September. My ex and I have been broken up since July and now it has been almost 6 months. I'm starting to move on but I still miss her like crazy. To be honest, I still want to work things out with her but I'm happy living on how the way things are. She said that she will not talk to me but lately she has been talking to my mom a few times a month. She called my mom to wish her a "Happy Thanksgiving". Then the ex told y mom say "Happy Thanksgiving" to me. Then she was asking about me and how I was doing. If you read my previous posts it looks like she is starting to regret the breakup(at least according to myself). I feel like she is starting to miss me and regretting her decision. I am starting to see other girls but every time I see a picture of my ex, she starts to become more gorgeous. I'm confused about this even though I'm starting to move on without her. It has been 6 months. This 5 year relationship, my first real serious relationship, has almost ruined my life but I have learned the mistakes I've made. How do I move on properly? How can I accept the idea that when she gets another boyfriend, that I can become completely okay with it? I get sad at the thought of her dating other guys still. I want to move on completely but my love seems to be growing stronger for her. WHAT can I do?
mightycpa Posted November 30, 2015 Posted November 30, 2015 For starters, you can tell your mom that if she insists on continuing to talk with the ex, that you don't want to hear a word about it, and to keep all of it to herself. Second, you should start drawing mustaches on your ex's beautiful pictures. Third, you need to do two related things: A) assume that she does have a boyfriend, or is dating the guy that will be her next boyfriend. B) do what you need to do so that you'll never know when she gets that boyfriend. Block social media, block news from your friends and family Fourth, have a plan for if you see her, and don't be afraid to appear childish or rude. Have something clever to say right before you walk away should you ever find yourself face-to-face, like: Silence seems to work well for us. Let's not fix what isn't broken. "I don't want anything to do with you" is a powerful message at any age. Fifth, you're only at the six month mark. As long as you've not been suppressing your emotions, you're on the way to recovery. Hearing about her has not helped shorten things, and in fact has done the opposite. So kill that ****. Change your routine, do something good for yourself, get some goals and work on them. Express your negative emotions (usually in writing) until they lose their power over you. Exercise. Do all that stuff, and in six more months, you'll be surprised at how good you feel. 2
Meli22 Posted November 30, 2015 Posted November 30, 2015 She's becoming more gorgeous in your eyes because you don't have her, good old human nature take her off that pedestal. As for moving on I think the only thing you can do to help yourself is cut her from your life completely. And by that I mean don't look at her social media pages, I'd tell your mum to stop contact with her too. If you don't look at her pages, and your mutual friends (if you have any) don't talk about her, you won't find out about a new boyfriend. If she does have someone new, think about all the things you disliked about her and laugh that the new guy has to put up with it. Even if she's on your mind a lot, by doing these things, you're on the quick route to recovery. Oh and go on dates too. You'll soon see there's tons of great, gorgeous girls out there who value your time 1
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