Shemmyemmy23 Posted November 30, 2015 Posted November 30, 2015 Okay so I've been seeing this guy and it's only been 3 dates but so far so good. We haven't slept together or anything yet but I wanted to find out whether it was a mutual thing, especially as he goes to university in the city that we both live in therefore doesn't stay here all the time and is going back home soon. I sent him this message the other day: "Hey, so recently I have found that I've started to like you since the time we've been spending together, and I would like to see where it goes. However, I have felt that recently it will be me initiating the conversations and suggesting we meet up so I don't know if it's something you just went along with or if you're also feeling the same way. So I guess I just wanted to get your take on it." And he responded saying: "Hiya, so I've really enjoyed spending time with you, I know I'm terrible at texting but that doesn't mean anything other than that I'm really really bad at texting. Obviously the difficult thing is that I'm about to go away for a month so I don't want to commit to anything at this stage, but that's not to say that I don't want to spend more time with you in the future. If that makes any sense?" However I guess I wanted to see him one last time before he went away for the month and asked him if he had the time to see each other and he said "this week is going to be insane so I don't know how much time I have before I leave" and that was that. Thing is since our date on Tuesday, we haven't texted much since but I guess I don't understand why so I'm a little confused?? And before anyone says anything, when I asked him the first bit it wasn't a "where are we right now?" I just wanted to see if he was actually interested in me in the first place.
stillafool Posted November 30, 2015 Posted November 30, 2015 Well he sounds like he has really enjoyed himself when you two were together but he is reminding you that he is going away and doesn't want anything serious. It doesn't sound like he is carving out time to see you before he leaves. Since you knew he was leaving town why get so invested in whether you two will be together when it's obvious he is leaving and won't be around.
Xiomn Posted November 30, 2015 Posted November 30, 2015 (edited) BS, if he wants to see you he will, even if it's just 1 measly little hour over the course of an entire 1 week. The girl I was dating also said she wasn't ready for a relationship and wanted to continue seeing me, but she continued to flake indefinitely, saying she is busy this week and postponing it to next week all the time. I was always the one initiating texts too and she made the same excuse at being bad at texting. In the end she wasn't interested and didn't have the courage to tell me straight up. Be cautious in my opinion. Edited November 30, 2015 by Xiomn
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