TimmyG Posted November 30, 2015 Posted November 30, 2015 Here's the story: Age 24 Male Single I frequent a local restaurant with a friend (male) and met a 20 year old female waitress that works there. My friend and I are up there on weekends and have conversate with her every weekend. I flirt sometimes and tell her that I am interested but she has had a boyfriend as long as we've known her. Well my friend was up there last week by himself and she told him that she had a single roommate that she wanted to introduce to me. She also told him that she just broke up with her boyfriend that week as well. Keep in mind my friend is married with children and she is not remotely interested in him. So her roommate is a bartender at another local spot and she recommends that we all go up there for drinks while her roommate is working on Friday to introduce me to her. So Friday comes and she texts us saying that she is at another spot and wants us to meet up there before hand. Me and my friend meet here at that place and she is with her other single roommate and her friend. She is also dressed very formal as if she is going on a date. We have a couple of drinks at that spot and we all proceed to meet the bartender roommate. When we get there she gets a table not a spot at the bar. Her roommate comes over and introduces herself. We talk for a few minutes and she heads back to the bar. I found her interesting and there was some chemistry between us. We all order a few more drinks. 11pm rolls around and the 20 year old waitress want to go home. We drive her and her friends back to their house and she wants us to come in. Keep in mind her roommate closes. We have drinks and talk for about an 30 minutes and her ex-boyfriend walks in the front door. Me and my friend look at each other like wtf this is going to be ugly. But they act friendly and no argument or altercation happens. We actually all drink for another hour or so and he is actually making conversation with everyone. The ex and her don't really show any romantic keys but they are obviously not pissed at each other. My friend and I leave about 30 minutes later. I have interest in both the waitress and her bartender friend. More so the waitress who tried to set me up with her friend. I guess the advice or question I am asking is from all of the details, do you think there is genuine interest from the waitress? I really like her but don't want to continue talking to her while chancing screwing up the shot at her friend she wanted to hook me up with. Thanks in advance for your comments/suggestions.
LilaMarie Posted November 30, 2015 Posted November 30, 2015 Dude...you already know the answer. She's just not into you. Pay attention to people's actions.
Matchmaker Posted November 30, 2015 Posted November 30, 2015 (edited) Dude...you already know the answer. She's just not into you. Pay attention to people's actions. I'm not so sure. The most logical answer is that she is trying to discover if you really like her or not. Some girls try to fix up guys that they like because they want him to refuse them and come back. From your description, I think she brought her friends along when you went out to seek their opinion. That was a test to see how you acted. The whole situation of the ex showing up also seems like a test to see if you reacted negatively in a group situation. More than likely she wanted to piss her ex off by showing him that she already has someone else on the line and she is not hurting. This is definitely something a younger woman would do. A bunch of drama. Personally, I wouldn't mess around with her but it seems that she probably is interested in you. The most important part is that if she wasn't interested in you, she would have never gone with you to "hook you up" with her friend. She would have just set you both up on a 1-1 date. It's the idea of Social Value, if a girl see's you are desirable to other women then they will become competitive. Edited November 30, 2015 by Matchmaker
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