Leigh 87 Posted December 1, 2015 Posted December 1, 2015 Well for me I think "let's get real about this". I know I am average looking (even more so now since I've put on a little weight). I don't expect any man to think I'm the most beautiful woman he's ever seen because that's not going to happen. However I would like a man who really has love goggles on so thinks I'm awesome even though objectively I'm not that great. I wouldn't want him to be looking around for a better model. Same as I don't expect him to be the most handsome man I've ever seen. But that's not really what I go for when it comes to men. I met a very attractive guy just last weekend but he didn't do it for me because I found his personality was a turn off. It's a best of both worlds kind of thing. But I don't live in a fantasy world. I accept how I look now and it makes me comfortable in who I am and more accepting of different people. So no, it's not weird to be attracted to someone with an average face. If you look under the surface, most people are pretty average. It's all about presentation, dressing well and having confidence and a good attitude. I think this helps to attract both men and women. But I am average and I manage to find men who think I am very pretty. There is something to be said about women who wait for men who genuinely think ther are gorgous looking. I prefer to wait for men who fancy me as their "type " Meaning I am average to the majority but a minority of men genuinely find me well above "average " Trust me I've settled for men who did see me as average ...and there was always something missing between us. There is so much more zest, more spark and more passion when you're with a man who legitimately views you as good looking / his type.
Glitters Posted December 1, 2015 Posted December 1, 2015 The only thing that I find weird is your mindset ! Beauty lies in the eyes of the beholder ! Ever heard of that ? Since you are in the just like her phase , let it go because she clearly doesn't deserve a guy who looks at her like she is just average , below his level ! Everyone deserves someone whom they look and can't take their eyes off, irrespective of what others think. Her personality and body make up for her face , really?? What does your attitude towards her face make up for ? Your face? It will wrinkle before you know it. No, she deserves a better guy.
Leigh 87 Posted December 1, 2015 Posted December 1, 2015 The only thing that I find weird is your mindset ! Beauty lies in the eyes of the beholder ! Ever heard of that ? Since you are in the just like her phase , let it go because she clearly doesn't deserve a guy who looks at her like she is just average , below his level ! Everyone deserves someone whom they look and can't take their eyes off, irrespective of what others think. Her personality and body make up for her face , really?? What does your attitude towards her face make up for ? Your face? It will wrinkle before you know it. No, she deserves a better guy. This is my point. One doesn't have to be gorgeous in order to find a man who is totally enamoured by their looks! If you're open to feeling the chemistry and sparks with ANYONE, you would he surprised at who you fall for! I have gone nuts over fat guys, bald guys, fat bald guys, super skinny guys - men *I*was open to falling for yet who society at large would deem *too plain*?or * too fat* The trick is- You NEVER actually think they are average in your eyes. It's one thing to acknowledge that they aren't necessary drop dead gorgeous by SOCIETIES standards. But they should instantly be attractive in YOUR eyes. I'm a firm believer in women waiting for a mate who thinks her unique looks are very desirable , average or not (by societies standards). I am average. And it feels amazing to have a boyfriend who truly did think I was good looking from the moment he saw me. He tells me how pretty and gorgeous I am daily. He never merely though "meh she's plain, I wonder why I am attracted ":eek:
stillafool Posted December 1, 2015 Posted December 1, 2015 =Billy Bob 2000 That's not happening. Why? What is an average face?
Zippy2000 Posted December 1, 2015 Posted December 1, 2015 Exactly what is an average face! Well if you read up about attractiveness in pyschology books. Beauty is actiall based on an "average face". This means eyes, nose and mouth are in proportion and is equal in proportion to the overall face. Some books mention plainess is attractive as beautiful and it is really subjective. I used to tell my friends what types of girls I liked and I ve been told they were very PLAIN! A couple of examples of girls I like. Mary Elizabeth Winstead, Kate Winslet. If you look them uo they are average looking BUT to me they are beautiful.
GorillaTheater Posted December 1, 2015 Posted December 1, 2015 Thank goodness my (beautiful) wife took a chance with a guy with pretty average looks.
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