Musician1985 Posted November 30, 2015 Posted November 30, 2015 Hey guys/gals, I'm dating around (30/M here), and I got coffee with a girl I met online. Nice girl, we got on well (I think), and we've been texting for three weeks prior (couldn't meet earlier, she had a procedure done). The date lasted almost three hours, and some good signs included that she kept ordering water, which I'm thinking means she wanted to talk more (maybe I'm reading too deeply into this?). However, the date ended with a hug. I didn't kiss her, because I don't like to push. I prefer to wait for when the moment is right - I don't like to put the girl in a position she doesn't want to be in. I think that the girl should feel comfortable enough to be ready though. I was kinda hoping that it would be a good opportunity to kiss though, considering I thought the date went well. She did say "talk to you later" when parting, so I hope it's a good sign. I've read things going both ways about whether it's alright if a "good" date didn't end in a kiss, and I'm wondering about your input. Thanks
kassy Posted November 30, 2015 Posted November 30, 2015 I don't see it's a problem, ask her out for another date and just assume it's not a problem.
hippychick3 Posted November 30, 2015 Posted November 30, 2015 (edited) I rarely kissed a guy at the end of a first date, especially someone I had met online. Even if I was very interested in him and wanted to kiss him, I rarely did on the first date. Edited November 30, 2015 by hippychick3 spelling error 2
Author Musician1985 Posted November 30, 2015 Author Posted November 30, 2015 Glad I'm hearing this from a woman's POV. Looking forward to getting to know her further, if she allows the opportunity.
LilaMarie Posted November 30, 2015 Posted November 30, 2015 I also, rarely kiss a guy on first date. You are still a stranger in my eyes after 1 date. Good luck dude. 2
regine_phalange Posted November 30, 2015 Posted November 30, 2015 hug is great and kiss is great too if you feel comfortable with it. ask her out again
ScienceGal Posted November 30, 2015 Posted November 30, 2015 Everyone is different. I'd like a kiss at date 3, but date 2 would be ok if everything went well. Although, I just had 9 dates with a man who wouldn't kiss me, even after I asked for it. Pretty sure he isn't going to call me again either because of it. If your next date goes well, go for it. Or at least a kiss on the cheek if that feels more appropriate. Good luck!
Author Musician1985 Posted November 30, 2015 Author Posted November 30, 2015 You guys are helpful. Thanks! You're good man. lol - how come you say that?
JustGettingBy Posted November 30, 2015 Posted November 30, 2015 Hey, if she says yes to another date, you've got a chance. Don't over think this.
pulsar Posted November 30, 2015 Posted November 30, 2015 Completely alright not kissing on the first date. I think many women will appreciate that and respect you for it. Also, the fact that you're both strangers after first date also factors in - many women would feel uncomfortable kissing only after first date. Ask her out again if you are interested in her and don't rush anything - let it come naturally. P.S. My GF and I didn't kiss until 3rd or 4th date. 1
Author Musician1985 Posted November 30, 2015 Author Posted November 30, 2015 Hey, if she says yes to another date, you've got a chance. Don't over think this. This is good. I was asking because as a guy, yes, I want to kiss her. But I wasn't sure what a non-kiss meant, and if that meant that it would be the end of me dating her.
AspenBaldwin Posted November 30, 2015 Posted November 30, 2015 There can be a lot of passion in a hug.
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