LoveIsABattlefield36 Posted November 29, 2015 Posted November 29, 2015 So, just recently met this guy. A few months now. Newest member of a circle of friends/acquaintances. First day I met him he was looking my body up and down with an approving look on his face and I gave him a weird look and kept walking the other way. Days go by and we begin communicating a little more, but by nature I am aloof, shy, reticent, and prefer to stay in my own world so I don't really engage him. A few weeks ago he carried some (harmless) information about me back to another member of the circle but it pissed me off that he was gossiping already so I decided to confront him on it. Two weeks ago I walked into a conversation with him and a mutual friend with a stoic (still pissed from what he had done) look on my face and he quickly mentions that he has a girlfriend? However, during the rest of the conversation that I had now joined in on, and before I could ask him of what he had done, he is looking me directly in the eye and smiling at me the entire time. During the conversation he was also correcting things that I said? And when I did it back to him he looked livid. Last week he was doing the same smiling thing again so much where at one point I had to turn my head/avert my eyes because it creeped me out. He's also taken to laughing at everything I say. Meaning all of my unfunny jokes. And yesterday he was talking with some friends and immediately as I walked past he started staring at me that I quickly walked back in the other direction. Also, I've planned a couple of gatherings within the past few weeks but he has never shown. He goes to others but doesn't come to mine? I know what you're thinking...why do I care? Well, let me first say, he is a very attractive guy but he was never on my radar until he started behaving this way with me. I don't mess with guys who are taken in any capacity so my inquiry is for the purposes of figuring out why he's behaving oddly with me? He blows hot and cold and it makes me feel a little crappy. I don't bother him. Why is he correcting me, telling my personal info...and then smiling, staring? It's a game, right? That's why he mentioned he had a girlfriend? Am I dealing with a sociopath? Maybe time to get out the circle.
CarrieT Posted November 29, 2015 Posted November 29, 2015 Get out of the circle. He sounds like a trouble-maker... 2
Author LoveIsABattlefield36 Posted November 29, 2015 Author Posted November 29, 2015 Get out of the circle. He sounds like a trouble-maker... Yea. From the beginning my instincts told me to keep my distance and that's what I've done. I just go about my business. I couldn't believe he carried back news so soon. I thought he was a nice guy. Oh well.
KatZee Posted November 29, 2015 Posted November 29, 2015 You want him because he's directly hit your ego. The hot and cold, push and pull is almost guaranteed tactic in making someone want them more. It's manipulation. You thrived off the interest and then took a blow when he was suddenly uncaring of who you were. Then he showed interest and you perk up, and then he rips it away again and you're left wanting more. You only want him because you "can't have him." That's what he's doing. Think carefully. You don't really like HIM, you don't really want HIM you're just getting sucked into his manipulation. 1
smackie9 Posted November 29, 2015 Posted November 29, 2015 He is insecure. He belittles you to have control, and hides his vulnerability because he likes you. By liking you he feels weakness and hates feeling the loss of control...that why he acts passive/aggressive towards you. He's broken, don't give him anymore of your time. 1
Author LoveIsABattlefield36 Posted November 29, 2015 Author Posted November 29, 2015 He is insecure. He belittles you to have control, and hides his vulnerability because he likes you. By liking you he feels weakness and hates feeling the loss of control...that why he acts passive/aggressive towards you. He's broken, don't give him anymore of your time. Thanks smackie. I understand this. Sad because he appears so confident and well put together. We are also from two different worlds but surprisingly we have quite a bit in common. Yea, I'll keep my distance.
Author LoveIsABattlefield36 Posted November 30, 2015 Author Posted November 30, 2015 You want him because he's directly hit your ego. The hot and cold, push and pull is almost guaranteed tactic in making someone want them more. It's manipulation. You thrived off the interest and then took a blow when he was suddenly uncaring of who you were. Then he showed interest and you perk up, and then he rips it away again and you're left wanting more. You only want him because you "can't have him." That's what he's doing. Think carefully. You don't really like HIM, you don't really want HIM you're just getting sucked into his manipulation. You're absolutely right! I don't like him and this us all about my ego.
Author LoveIsABattlefield36 Posted December 1, 2015 Author Posted December 1, 2015 Listen to your instincts. Avoid him. Yea, saw him today and kept my distance.
TheBathWater Posted December 1, 2015 Posted December 1, 2015 He sounds like one of those pickup artist guys. 1
Author LoveIsABattlefield36 Posted December 3, 2015 Author Posted December 3, 2015 He sounds like one of those pickup artist guys. I think you might be right.
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