ZA Dater Posted November 30, 2015 Posted November 30, 2015 No chemistry = I don't want to bonk you. This is the truth. Strangely enough I saw one of these ladies the other day at a social event and guess what she still didn't have a guy. Felt better about myself.
Leigh 87 Posted November 30, 2015 Posted November 30, 2015 (edited) Exactly- realistic is the right word, I think its only those of us in our mid 30s who get that. True 'spark' (if I ujderstand it correctly) is ultra rare, I have had it with 2 people in 35 years and both were not instantaneous and built up over a number of times in the company of that person. Does that mean I should only have dated 2 people in my entire life? I have to be realistic and accept that if I do eventually settle down its not going to be with someone that there is a spark with. But thats fine, as long as I am attracted to them, they make me laugh and I feel comfortable and relaxed in their company then thats fine for me. I wonder how many people honestly end up committing to people who they felt a spark with, I can't imagine something so particular is prevalent and that most people are finding it. But different people feel the spark at different rates. I feel the spark often. Twice this year. And I felt Chemistry about four times this year without the initial spark. People who feel the spark more often than you and who are the types of people who other people feel the spark for, CAN very realistically hold out for it! I am an average looking woman yet I seem to get more men to feel sparks for me than the average girl - despite being a 6/10 myself. And luckily, I feel the spark often enough too. I definitely don't feel it regularly but it's not so rare. What is rare is also finding true compatability to accompany the spark. I've felt the wow factor before at least twice a year maybe 3 times..... But with unsuitable guys.. I'm in an amazing relationship with a man I feel the spark with. And I rejected so many nice, cute successful nice seeming guys to get here. Guys that were into me, I rejected. Edited November 30, 2015 by Leigh 87
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