Natalie8 Posted November 29, 2015 Posted November 29, 2015 So, feel free to call me an idiot. Although i already know i am. Banging my head against the wall, just stopped doing it to write this thread. This is an update about my dilemma i posted about a month ago. At that point i turned down his offer of FWB as i wanted more and he was freshly out of a very long relationship. So i was planning to chat him up in a few months time to see if he is ready to date ( and maybe i was going to reconsider the FWB offer) What i did instead was - incredibly predictable, i know- getting tipsy, feeling horny and lonely, and inviting him around. He did come and was in and out of the house in 45 minutes and that includes a chat and a drink. I didnt expect the sex to be all lovey dovey and slow but i also didnt expect him to be so obviously just wanting to get in, get off, get out . I only really had time to reflect on it afterwards, questioning why i feel so crap when after all i asked him around and he did happily come. You were all right. Casual sex with someone i like is only going to make me feel worse. I feel sore and i expect the emotional consequences to be longer lasting than the physical ones. I dont want to play the victim, he did nothing wrong -although he could have been a bit more invested in my pleasure. I dont want to put too much information. Anyways, live and learn. I certainly wont repeat this. And i still like him
littlez360 Posted November 29, 2015 Posted November 29, 2015 FWB situations can be perfect for both parties if both people are on the same page. Furthermore, FWB just doesn't work if only one person is being satisfied... Intimacy on a certain level is usually a part of it, but it's not going to feel like you're "making love" 1
lana-banana Posted November 29, 2015 Posted November 29, 2015 There's no sense in our being hard on you when you're already being so hard on yourself. You learned your lesson; I'm so sorry you're hurting, and I hope you never forget how much you're worth. Don't settle for anyone's scraps. Love yourself. 2
Author Natalie8 Posted November 29, 2015 Author Posted November 29, 2015 There's no sense in our being hard on you when you're already being so hard on yourself. You learned your lesson; I'm so sorry you're hurting, and I hope you never forget how much you're worth. Don't settle for anyone's scraps. Love yourself. Thank you for saying that 1
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