azizFCB Posted November 29, 2015 Posted November 29, 2015 Hello guys, I don't know from where to start. I have been seeing this girl for 3 months now, she is my classmate. These 3 months we had a lot of fun, calling, texting everyday and we both realized how much we enjoy being together and as time goes one I get that we have a lot in common. So one day we planned to go watching a movie, later the night before, she told me via text message that we have to cancel it due to someone "important" to her has too see her. At first I got little angry and nervous and then we calmed down and we went to sleep. Tomorrow night I asked her how is this person "important" just per curiosity so she told me the whole story, she had been with a guy for 4 years and they have to meet up to discuss the date of the engagement. That moment I felt like someone tore my heart apart. enough said. 3 months passed quickly through my head; she never told me this, never gave a hint but she did gave me signs she is interested in me, how she behaves with me doesn't tell anything about another guy but reinforces my thoughts that we are going to be for each other. She was very conservative, too close to a nerdy girl and I think she didn't want to take the risk of losing some good joyful, funny moments by telling me that there is someone else. Analyzing my behavior during the 3 months here is what I got: I invested too much emotions and time, I'm just like that, a guy who easily gets attached, I've always imagined the both of us in the future, old and holding each other's hand, pictured my family and her's reactions to us introducing ourselves etc.. All of this in mind. I've canceled a lot of male friends plans just to text/call her you know what I mean. I thought she had the same feelings and invested as much as I did. The problem is that we didn't discuss the relationship talking, I never discussed with her what's the label of this relationship, what's next and that's completely my fault. We just enjoy being with each other. Acted cool, I told her okay now everything is clear and I told her that she had to tell me about he other story from the beginning, anyway we are going to talk about this tomorrow. My problem is she is still texting me, calling, so what shall I do!? act cool and keep the friendship status!? ( Deep down I know she's not the one because I know her before we became friend and I classified her with the other nerdy girls, "not my type" but I'm heavily attached to her now) Do I have to stop talking to here even though she is my classmate, we see each other everyday!? Do I have to be honest and tell here what's going on in my mind tomorrow?! I don't want to see other girls immediately just to forget her because this would ruin me and I don't want to lose her as a friend as she is a great helpful, polite and generous person. Any advice please!? (Sorry for English mistakes)
Gaeta Posted November 29, 2015 Posted November 29, 2015 Wow! I am so sorry. That sucks so much! I know you said you never discussed the relationship status but geezz!!! She definitely mislead you. If it had only been friendship between you 2 she would have mentioned having a long term boyfriend and an engagement ahead. Keep on talking to her? Absolutely NOT !! Discard and block! This class you're sharing is not forever it will be done in a few weeks. 1
LostOnes05 Posted November 29, 2015 Posted November 29, 2015 She is full of crap. How do you tell someone you're in bed with casually that you're getting engaged. I would have been irate. No need to maintain contact. She might be generous (cough cough) but polite?!...nah. Her actions tell you that she can't be trusted, not even as a friend. Just my $0.02. Good luck bro.
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