rmo2380 Posted May 28, 2005 Posted May 28, 2005 Okay heres my situation. I have been broken up with my ex for two monthes. She dumped me after a two year relationship because she didnt know if I was right for her. For the first month, I did everything wrong, as I begged and pleaded for her to come back to me because she meant everything to me. I probably sounded pathetic in the first month and probably pushed her away. Than the second month I did no contact. And at first it was hard to do but I got used it. I shouldnt say I did no contact completely but when she would email me or call me I would answer but I kept it really short and didnt go into details of my feelings for her. Well last night she wrote me an email because she had heard from a mutual friend that I been hanging out with some friends. One of the friends that hangs out with us is a girl. And she always knew about this friend that was a woman and had no problem with her the whole time we are together. Well she said in her email that she hoped I had a great weekend and said that I bet my friend who is just strictly a friend that is a woman is a lot happier now because she she has me all to herself. So my question is what does that suppose to mean. Usually she still tells me she loves me and all that in emails and phone calls. And after she said that she ended her email. Am I reading into this too much? Whats yalls advice if I may ask.
LucreziaBorgia Posted May 28, 2005 Posted May 28, 2005 So my question is what does that suppose to mean. It means she wasn't as 'ok' with it as she led you to believe during your relationship. She's taking a cheap shot at you by implying that you were lying to her about this girl the entire time you were together - thus making herself look like less of the bad guy in the situation. I expect her ego took a blow when she saw that instead of you being devastated by the loss of her, you turned to a woman that was a sore spot for her to begin with. She isn't doing this for your sake, or to imply that she still has feelings for you. Its a power/ego play that dumpers do from time to time - they don't want you back, but they want to know if you still want them back. Not all dumpers do this - but these are the ones that will constantly make a point of contacting you in some form - either being sickly sweet or an outright a**h***, while keeping you at an arm's (and heart's) length away. They need your reaction, just to know they can still cause you to have one. If you really want to infuriate her, show her how insignificant she is by simply refusing to respond.
Author rmo2380 Posted May 28, 2005 Author Posted May 28, 2005 i appreciate the advice its just hard to deal with because i still love her. i went out with my friends because it takes my mind of her at times. my friends didnt abandon me like she did. but still i want her back. so maybe i am reading into too much. i want her back but have accepted reality and reality is she isnt in my life anymore. its just easier now. but when she says things like that i think now is my chance to get her back but lately with just casually talking to her once and awhile i dont believe she will come back. hell i dont know
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