pulsar Posted November 28, 2015 Posted November 28, 2015 Hey Everybody, I wanted perspective from members about how they feel about dating an older woman and are there any issues resultant from age gap. My girlfriend of about a year is 6 years older than me (she is 33 and I'm 27) and things have been good overall - we have similar outlook in life but different personalities. I had initial reluctance because there tends to be a certain taboo about age gap reversal. However, at this point it is a trivial matter. A recent conversation with my sister (who is also 33) led to the issue being brought up regarding my GF age and how the age would act against me. So my question to the members is, have you had experience in similar situations and how did it turn out? Also, what inputs do you folks have from your personal experience? Thanks!
littlez360 Posted November 28, 2015 Posted November 28, 2015 I've only "dated" a couple girls a little older than me, I've always dated girls younger than I am... At your ages, I don't see why anybody should assume there would be an issues expected as long as you're both comfortable with it. Some people have experienced more life by 25 than most people ever will... After you know who you are, age doesn't play much of a roll beyond the personal preference of the 2 individuals involved. 1
truth_seeker Posted November 28, 2015 Posted November 28, 2015 Age can be an issue. If you want a family, kids, you have to find a woman who is in that 25-33 age range. Women 35 and up are less likely to have kids. Men have the advantage as they age in this department. As far as issues as it pertains to age only... I wouldn't date anyone still in school or could still be attending school (18-22) I think my cut off is 25. I'm in my mid 30's. I wouldn't date anyone right now who is my age or older as I want a family. If I don't meet anyone in a coupe of years, get married, then I would probably accept the fact I'm not going to have a family and just date anyone I'm compatible with - younger or older than me. 1
littlez360 Posted November 28, 2015 Posted November 28, 2015 Age can be an issue. If you want a family, kids, you have to find a woman who is in that 25-33 age range. Women 35 and up are less likely to have kids. Men have the advantage as they age in this department. As far as issues as it pertains to age only... I wouldn't date anyone still in school or could still be attending school (18-22) I think my cut off is 25. I'm in my mid 30's. I wouldn't date anyone right now who is my age or older as I want a family. If I don't meet anyone in a coupe of years, get married, then I would probably accept the fact I'm not going to have a family and just date anyone I'm compatible with - younger or older than me. Damn T.S.... You got it all planned out don't you? lol... Let's go find that baby maker for you next weekend... I know of some good places. 2
Gaeta Posted November 28, 2015 Posted November 28, 2015 I would not call 27-33 an age gap. If she were 27 and you 33 your sister wouldn't have said a word about your ages. At 27 I imagine you are a grown man ready to embark in a serious relationship. If not than it's a matter of compatibility not age. I consider an age gap 10 + years 3
lollipopspot Posted November 28, 2015 Posted November 28, 2015 When I saw your title, "Relationship with Older Woman" I expected a significant age gap. When someone is over about 22 years old, six years is not a meaningful age gap to me. 1
truth_seeker Posted November 28, 2015 Posted November 28, 2015 I would not call 27-33 an age gap. If she were 27 and you 33 your sister wouldn't have said a word about your ages. At 27 I imagine you are a grown man ready to embark in a serious relationship. If not than it's a matter of compatibility not age. I consider an age gap 10 + years If I'm 37 and she's 25, I'm fine with it. I think older man with younger woman works but is odd if it's the other way around. If I were 25 and dating a 37 year old, I think there'd be a bigger reaction. 1
jen1447 Posted November 28, 2015 Posted November 28, 2015 I have a GF who's close to that age diff (~4 1/2 years) - no issues at all. I really don't think a "gap" like that is significant. 1
Sunlight72 Posted November 28, 2015 Posted November 28, 2015 I dated, and was married to, a woman 10 years older (I was 30, she was 40 when we met). We later divorced, not over age differences. During the relationship I didn't feel any negatives from the age difference. I think it depends more on the people involved than the numbers, but a 5 or 6 year difference doesn't sound noteworthy to me. 2
lollipopspot Posted November 28, 2015 Posted November 28, 2015 If I had any hint that the guy I was dating had a problem with me being only 6 years older, it would become a problem for me too, and taint the relationship. I'd probably think he was going to replace me with a younger model after awhile, since I'd think him very partial to younger women. 1
Buddhist Posted November 28, 2015 Posted November 28, 2015 Hey Everybody, I wanted perspective from members about how they feel about dating an older woman and are there any issues resultant from age gap. My girlfriend of about a year is 6 years older than me (she is 33 and I'm 27) and things have been good overall - we have similar outlook in life but different personalities. I had initial reluctance because there tends to be a certain taboo about age gap reversal. However, at this point it is a trivial matter. A recent conversation with my sister (who is also 33) led to the issue being brought up regarding my GF age and how the age would act against me. So my question to the members is, have you had experience in similar situations and how did it turn out? Also, what inputs do you folks have from your personal experience? Thanks! Yes I have experience. My experience is that an age gap somewhere around 5yrs is so insignificant as to be a total non-issue. Come on, you're dating a woman of a fairly similar age and life stage. There's not a lot between you. Come post again when you're dating someone 15yrs older than you. 1
Buddhist Posted November 28, 2015 Posted November 28, 2015 If I'm 37 and she's 25, I'm fine with it. I think older man with younger woman works but is odd if it's the other way around. If I were 25 and dating a 37 year old, I think there'd be a bigger reaction. Well I was 39 and dating a 27yr old. No-one looked at us twice. Current one is around the same difference. Again, no staring or pointing happening. Not even a slight comment or sidewise glance. Yes I'm female. 1
Author pulsar Posted November 30, 2015 Author Posted November 30, 2015 Thank you everyone for your input. For me personally, it is a non issue until it was pointed out by my sister - it was merely her perception being projected onto me. @Gaeta, you make a good points, I think the issue is rooted in my sisters perception which I allowed to influence. I also agree that 27-33 is a non-issue as pointed by other posters. @lollipopspot, you made a good point about how my GF might feel about this. Suffice to day she doesn't know and I'm quite happy with her being herself. Age wasn't a factor for me from the start. I was making a complete non-issue into something more, not a 'gap' at all. Thank you guys for your input and sharing your experience! 2
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