Mynt Posted November 28, 2015 Posted November 28, 2015 (edited) Hi! I am 18 and she is 17. So i was very good friend with this girl. We both had our relationship with other people but we were really close friends and trusted each other and everything. My girlfriend of 1,5 years suddenly dumped me and i was very hurt. This girl had very unhappy relationship and we went out two times. One saturday they had really nasty fight and she blocked him everywhere. And she texted me to meet and i agreed. Things went very sexual and she wanted to meet next day too. We met and things went again very sexual and she said she is very happy. Three days later her boyfriend of 2 years dumped her and laughed at her, humiliated her and said he has someone better. Two day later we had good date again. But at Saturday(next day) she said we are moving too fast and she doesn't want to meet tomorrow. Also she said that she isn't very happy about last date. I said it is good to slow down a little bit. Couple of hours later she was very attracted to me and we texted like 3 hours. Next day she wanted to meet and everything was perfect. Then we didn't text two days and i knew something is wrong so i asked her what's wrong. She said i didn't text her after that perfect date and i only play with her. She said we should be just friends. Later she changed her mind again and we made rules that one time i text her and next time she will do it. Next day she was again very attracted me and said she can't wait when we meet. Friday came and she was very excited about our meeting. 3 hours later she was suddenly again very sad and didn't want to meet. But i had to do almost impossible thing to get us this private place to meet and i said it's quite bad if she cancels plans so late. So she came and was really happy. I felt all good and hot signs, she hugged me very strongly,we kissed most of the time during the date. We had really good time, everything was so good. All her sadness was gone. And today she said that yesterday wasn't so special, she is quite neutral about that and us and she doesn't know if she wants to meet tomorrow. She is very moody. One moment she wants so much to meet me and be with me. Couple of hours later she is sad and wants just to be home alone. But after all, she still wants to meet and everything is good. One day she wanted to be just friends, but next day she couldn't wait to meet me. We never argue or anything. But this thing is bothering me. Why she suddenly said today that she is quite neutral about us and this spark is gone, though yesterday her actions showed something else. I have very athletic body, but i never seen someone so physically attracted to me. We are both each others rebounds and meet only private at the moment. But we have really good connection. What should i do? If i step away from her little bit, she becomes needy and thinks i don't care about her. But how i could maintain attraction and spark? Edited November 28, 2015 by Mynt mistake
Glitters Posted November 28, 2015 Posted November 28, 2015 Sometimes a very strong connection can make it feel very scary and make people vulnerable. It seems she wants to come closer and does get closer every time but takes a step back because of vulnerability of her feelings. This fear will either make her end whatever you guys have or slowly Overcome. Falling in love makes us vulnerable and probably she is scared of opening up. You need to gain her trust in that her feelings are secure with you.
Author Mynt Posted November 28, 2015 Author Posted November 28, 2015 We trust each other very much, so she tells me everything. She is afraid of new relationship. She has fear, that may be she falls so in love and then i leave her. Also she is scared that may be she just "play" with me and then wants to be single. There are lot of thoughts like that in her head. And it's so confusing, one moment she wants so much me and next moment she tells she is neutral about us. There's exactly two weeks about her breakup. How should i act in this situation?
Author Mynt Posted November 30, 2015 Author Posted November 30, 2015 (edited) Situation is quite interesting. Yesterday she had again no interest in me and to meet me. We never had sex in our previous dates, so i texted her to come this place where we meet usually and she could get me anyway she likes( sexually). She was there in a second. We had really great time and she showed hot signs after that, like texting me a lot more and things like that. Today she showed again better signs, but also said that she is so happy with this situation at the moment. She is completely independent and does not depend on anyone. I decided to give her a little bit less attention, because she needs it a lot and it seems she crawl for that if i don't give it. Any ideas? I really want to get into relationship with this girl. What should i do to not ruin it and make things better? I forgot, she also said it's good to not feel anything at the moment, like to anyone, i think. Edited November 30, 2015 by Mynt forgot something
Author Mynt Posted December 1, 2015 Author Posted December 1, 2015 It's hard if no one answers. I would appreciate it very much if someone says their opinion.
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