towardthefuture Posted November 28, 2015 Posted November 28, 2015 Going out with this girl. We previously went out for 2-3 months and then we stopped talking to each other. She started blowing me off and I deleted her number & facebook and moved on with my life. That was about 5 months ago. Recently we reconnected sort of by chance. Starting from there: Our first date we talked a little bit about how we miscommunicated before, went to a bar, made out in my car for about an hour. Second date we went to a speakeasy, she said she had a lot of fun. We kissed at the end and had an extended hug. Third date we went to a show, she said she had a blast, we kissed a little bit but I had been sick the previous week and she said she didn't want to get sick. We talked during the end of this date about us, she said she had feelings for me and saw potential but wanted to take it slow because of how it unraveled before. Each of these dates was ~1 week apart, no communication in between dates except after the 3rd date I bought her a flower and gave her a print-out of some relationship compatibility thing I read. After that we set up to go have dinner and a movie. Well, that day came and the morning of she texts me and says is it okay if we reschedule, she missed her best friend's birthday party and wants to take her out tonight. I say sure. We reschedule for Saturday. Friday I text her in the morning around 10:30 to say is 7 okay for the movie and she doesn't respond. I text her again roughly 12 hours later, she says she thought she responded, oops, and 7 is ok but she doesn't want to get dinner any more and actually how bout the matinee instead because it's cheaper. I say sure that's fine, I had a plan but I can readjust, why don't we go to the matinee and come back to my place after and have a glass of wine. She says she doesn't want to commit to hanging out afterwards and wants to see how she feels. I am getting a waning interest vibe with the rescheduling and the wanting to cut the date short. What do you guys think?
bu2002 Posted November 28, 2015 Posted November 28, 2015 I guess I'm still confused from the first time around. 2-3 months isn't an insignificant amount of time, and surely enough time for feelings to escalate and become intimate with one another, both emotionally and physically. So what happened here? Did things escalate at all or did it feel like y'all were hanging out as friends? My hunch is she's lonely, willing to hang out but doesn't want anything serious with you.
Author towardthefuture Posted November 28, 2015 Author Posted November 28, 2015 I guess I'm still confused from the first time around. 2-3 months isn't an insignificant amount of time, and surely enough time for feelings to escalate and become intimate with one another, both emotionally and physically. So what happened here? Did things escalate at all or did it feel like y'all were hanging out as friends? My hunch is she's lonely, willing to hang out but doesn't want anything serious with you. Things heated up really fast, we had sex the first date and started hanging out on a nearly daily basis, she felt smothered, started blowing me off. I backed off completely, never heard from her, moved on after like a month.
LoveIsMyReligion Posted November 28, 2015 Posted November 28, 2015 I'm sure you're a nice person but you're making her way too much of a priority in your life. The way you talk about an extended hug and what not is a huge indicator of this... Go have fun, enjoy life, and don't make such a big deal about seeing her.
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