lostsoul6486 Posted November 28, 2015 Posted November 28, 2015 I met this girl online and we have been chatting for a few days. We had set up a date for last night and everything seemed to be going great. In fact, we were texting back and forth throughout the day and she was the one who brought up the date to finalize the plans before I even got a chance to. About an hour and a half before it's time to go, she sent me a text saying that she thought she would be feeling better but she has been sick all day and going out wouldn't be a good time for either of us. She asked if we could do it another night. Of course, I thought this was just a lame excuse so I was indifferent towards her. I just said ok and told her to feel better soon expecting the conversation to end there, but it didn't. She sent me another text asking how my day went and making small talk. My question is: should I believe this? It seems like the lamest go to excuse possible, but why would she keep texting me if she legitimately just lost interest for some reason?
SwordofFlame Posted November 28, 2015 Posted November 28, 2015 I had a girl do exactly this to me very recently. We ended up rescheduling and I did go on one date with her. But that was it. Ghosted me afterwards. I think it probably indicated lukewarm interest at best.
bu2002 Posted November 28, 2015 Posted November 28, 2015 OLD is difficult because both men and women can be talking to multiple people at once. I think it's possible she was talking to someone else and also wanted to set something up with that person and trying to make things work logistically. It's also possible the other person is higher up in her priority list, and wanted to see them first.
Wewon Posted November 28, 2015 Posted November 28, 2015 Men and women have specific challenges when dating, as a man you will find yourself sifting through trying to tell the difference between BS and sincere reasons, otherwise you will spend 90% of your time being flaked on. My take is that interested people act interested. That means that cancellations are always met with some kind of follow-up or reschedule on her part. If she's not willing to put the effort (without prompting from you) then I would move on.
Erik30 Posted November 28, 2015 Posted November 28, 2015 My guess is she didn't feel like going/changed her mind, and has low interest. However, she loves your attention, and having a texting buddy. If she really was interested, her other texts should be about rescheduling your date. And yeah, it's kind off lame of her to be texting you while you were supposed to go out. I would just reply to her "I've got new plans for the night." Back off and see if she tries to set a new date. 1
hippychick3 Posted November 28, 2015 Posted November 28, 2015 She is probably talking to multiple guys and accepted a date with someone else but wants to keep you on the back burner. I would have to be so sick to the point of not being able to text chit chat to miss a date with someone I was really interested in seeing.
Author lostsoul6486 Posted November 28, 2015 Author Posted November 28, 2015 Seems like I should just let this one go then. It's just weird that she was so proactive when setting the date and then just flaked out. I've been flaked on before, but I usually do most of the work to initiate the date in the first place. Thanks a lot for the input.
Philosopher Posted November 29, 2015 Posted November 29, 2015 (edited) Of course, I thought this was just a lame excuse so I was indifferent towards her. I just said ok and told her to feel better soon expecting the conversation to end there, but it didn't. She sent me another text asking how my day went and making small talk. My question is: should I believe this? It seems like the lamest go to excuse possible, but why would she keep texting me if she legitimately just lost interest for some reason? When women cancel dates at late notice it is always difficult to work out whether it is for a genuine reason or whether it because she no longer wants to meet up with you. This one is a particularly tough one though as normally in my experience if they are keen on meeting up they will reschedule the date, however if they do not want to meet up they will not reschedule and will ignore any texts from you. However although she has not rescheduled, she still wants to continue the texting conversation. Like what others said it could be that she is seeing others or is no longer interested, however it could also be that she hasn't rescheduled as she does not know when she will get better. Therefore I wait two or three days, when she may be feeling better and then reschedule the date. If she cancels again however I would forget about her. Edited November 29, 2015 by Philosopher
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