sadpanda3 Posted November 28, 2015 Posted November 28, 2015 So I´ve been in complete NC for several months now. I am feeling great, started dating again and everything. NC helped me heal so much. There is only one thing bugging me. When I think about never EVER talking to my Ex again it makes me feel really bad even though I was the one to cut him off. I don´t even want to talk to him. He treated me like crap. A few years back I was the one to be cut off by an ex. It was a very similar feeling and stayed for YEARS even though I knew we had nothing left to say to eachother. With that guy we also fought really bad and he was really cruel towards the end. I also feel bad when I have to cut off close friends. If I´m the one to cut contact I feel a tremendous amount of guilt and if I get cut off I feel rejected. Funnily enough I feel perfectly fine if I know I can text those people once a year to ask how they are doing or just random chit chat. Did anyone experience feelings like that? Was it also over such a long period of time? Any advice to make it go away?
mightycpa Posted November 28, 2015 Posted November 28, 2015 Take heart! That diminishes over time, not because you can't make yourself feel sad (you'll always be able to do that, especially if you practice feeling sad, like you're doing), but because you won't think about it much.
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