I am interested in an enormously attractive guy at my school...

[Glitters]

I'm not a guy and non of my boyfriends of crushes were ' Greek gods '

 

If he was sleeping around , you would have heard about him in school , gossip ? His personality wouldn't have been what you describe it to be. Makes sense ?

[xxoo]

Yes, however, how common is it for a guy like him to get dates and sex invitations without doing anything at all himself?

I mean, does he like get asked out and invited home to girls even if he is 100% lazy and pretty much only "exists" and says yes to dates?

 

He probably does.

 

That's why this type of guy--if he falls for a girl--tends to fall for the girl who doesn't throw herself at him.

 

Don't idolize him. He's just a young guy. He's going to make some bad choices. He's not the man of your dreams--he's just not (yet, anyway). Get to know him. See if he is really someone you'd be interested in dating. Show him who you are, and see if he's interested. Believe that, if he's not interested, then he just isn't the guy for you. There will be SO many others.

[Mariah98]

He probably does.

 

That's why this type of guy--if he falls for a girl--tends to fall for the girl who doesn't throw herself at him.

 

Don't idolize him. He's just a young guy. He's going to make some bad choices. He's not the man of your dreams--he's just not (yet, anyway). Get to know him. See if he is really someone you'd be interested in dating. Show him who you are, and see if he's interested. Believe that, if he's not interested, then he just isn't the guy for you. There will be SO many others.

Yes, you're right.

I am looking forward to tomorrow, it's gonna be very exciting.

 

However, would this guy ever get "tired" of getting invitations?

I would assume that he would greatly enjoy being constantly desired like this.

Edited November 29, 2015 by Mariah98

[Glitters]

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However, would this guy ever get "tired" of getting invitations?

I would assume that he would greatly enjoy being constantly desired like this.[/quote]

 

Did you read my previous reply ? Your mind is fixed on having sex with him that you can't even read the replies you are getting with straight head ! How are you going to talk to him ?

[xxoo]

 

However, would this guy ever get "tired" of getting invitations?

I would assume that he would greatly enjoy being constantly desired like this.

 

I don't know that he'll get "tired' of invitations.

 

But he's human and gets crushes just like everyone else. It's a matter of boundaries, desires, and realities. When I was your age, I was unwilling to throw myself at a hot guy. I still ended up with a guy that had girls throwing themselves at him....because he developed a huge crush on me. We were friends, and took time for the sexual chemistry to build to irresistible before we relented and dated. But by that time, he genuinely adored me.

[littlez360]

Yes, you're right.

I am looking forward to tomorrow, it's gonna be very exciting.

 

However, would this guy ever get "tired" of getting invitations?

I would assume that he would greatly enjoy being constantly desired like this.

 

Well... yes and no. Depends a lot on what his priorities currently are...

I've turned down advances by attractive women simply because I was just there to get a few beers at the bar before going fishing... I didn't even consider the thought of getting her number, talking with her, much less go home with her and let somebody else catch the 25" bass that I caught that night.

But overall, a guy doesn't get "tired" of invitations, and it's certainly not a "burden" of any kind being desired as a guy...

[anduina]

Guys like this have women throwing themselves at them. Approaching him to chat is a good idea but don't flirt with him or give him come hither looks. Be the one who exits the conversation first, after saying something interesting.

[Mariah98]

Guys like this have women throwing themselves at them.

Does this kind of guy ever get "visitors" at his student apartment without warning, like some girl who decides to knock on his door and introduce herself?

[littlez360]

Does this kind of guy ever get "visitors" at his student apartment without warning, like some girl who decides to knock on his door and introduce herself?

 

Not likely. But how would anybody on the forum know?

[Mariah98]

Not likely. But how would anybody on the forum know?

Well, I was just curious I guess.

 

Do you think he would have a lot of success wih girls if he was barely present around other people and seemed generally stiff and grave?

[xxoo]

Well, I was just curious I guess.

 

Do you think he would have a lot of success wih girls if he was barely present around other people and seemed generally stiff and grave?

 

He could.

 

But why do you care?

[littlez360]

Well, I was just curious I guess.

 

Do you think he would have a lot of success wih girls if he was barely present around other people and seemed generally stiff and grave?

 

Absolutely possible yeah... He may be getting serious with somebody already... We don't know.

On the other side of the coin. There's plenty of very good looking guys that I've seen just completely turn women off after speaking to them for just a couple minutes and never get anywhere with women. Some men just don't have any energy to them I think, I don't know. But we don't know any more about this guy's personal characteristics than you do.

[Mariah98]

Absolutely possible yeah... He may be getting serious with somebody already... We don't know.

On the other side of the coin. There's plenty of very good looking guys that I've seen just completely turn women off after speaking to them for just a couple minutes and never get anywhere with women. Some men just don't have any energy to them I think, I don't know. But we don't know any more about this guy's personal characteristics than you do.

Yes, I was wondering because I just realized that I have seen a few guys who would definitely qualify as "very good-looking", but they didn't seem to get that much attention at all from girls, and they seemed to be by themselves most of the time, and were pretty much loners.

I always found that a bit strange, especially when I noticed that girls would suddenly become flirty and nervous and whatnot when he actually did started to talk to them for one reason or another.

 

I guess certain guys have a certain "energy", haha.

[StBreton]

I am 17, and there is a guy (18 years, as far as I know) who started at my school maybe one month ago

I was hoping that he would approach me after that, but he simply looked a little curious and then forgot about me.

 

What should I do? Engage with him so he remembers you next time ... like engage in conversation ... find out his likes, interests ... tease him a little. Guys love to be teased but no sexual innuendo stuff. He is reserved as you have stated.

 

Should I ask him out right away, or should I ask him for help with a school subject or something? Yes engage with him ... ask him to do something as a group with your friends ... maybe something for the holiday like go an look at holiday lights. If you're group isn't planning anything then you plan it and invite him.

How can I stick out and seem at least a little bit special? How do you stick out? DO NOT throw yourself at him!! (no matter what a few people on this thread have said)

 

OP ... I just hope you do not follow a lot of advice on here re: almost throwing yourself at this guy. Be careful how you engage men as you're likely to repeat this pattern in the future and it doesn't lead to good places. It's ok to flirt and flaunt a little bit but please have a bit of decorum.

 

Why are you so interested in his sex life and who he's had sex with? What is a "student apartment?" Are you thinking of showing up at his doorstep? Because you'll look like a stalker. Your posts are starting to come off as a little creepy.

[SwordofFlame]

Even if he is shy and/or socially awkward, what are you going to do about it? Do you have experience dating these type of guys?

[StBreton]

Well, I was just curious I guess.

 

Do you think he would have a lot of success wih girls if he was barely present around other people and seemed generally stiff and grave?

 

The guy probably doesn't wish to excite any particular girl's anticipation. I have a son who's a freshman in high school. I am always telling him that now matter what cards he holds (he's got a lot going for him) that he is to act humbly. He tells me the senior football players who are really good looking act very humbly (their team is #1 in the state too). I tell him that's because they have good parents who emulate this quality as well as teach their kids well. Make no mistake Mariah...you're the kind of girl I warn my 2 boys about. Sorry to burst your bubble. If you want a great guy...be the kind of girl that gets that great guy. Almost everything you've said on this thread runs contrary to a great girl.

[littlez360]

Mariah- You may very well hate this guy after talking to him, some guys have that curse upon them... Do you really care that much about this particular one? It is getting borderline creepy

Edited November 30, 2015 by a LoveShack.org Moderator
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[StBreton]

Believe it or not. It's all that uncommon for two people to....

Treat eachother like crap, disrespect eachother, but still engage sexually with eachother and still go on to have a healthy self esteem...

Who's to say what's right and wrong here?

It doesn't matter what intentions she has when she walks away from this, but if she has a postitive outlook and is prepared for the possible outcomes. Then the forum served it's purpose.

 

I know this is the internet ... her intentions do matter. OP is 17 and it is inappropriate to be discussing sex. There is no way of knowing if OP will be prepared for the possible outcomes of sex ... could be pregnancy, could be HIV, could be herpes, could be many things. A 17 yr old is most likely not going to be prepared for lots of these "possible outcomes" Again...several posters here please be responsible.

 

OP ... I'm just curious ... you are 17 and purportedly been in high school for a few years ... and as you say an "8" ... how is it you do not know how to engage with a good looking guy? Something is off here. If I had to guess, I'd say I was a solid 9 in high school...I never had an issue engaging with guys in HS ... did date just one guy my junior and senior year though so not on the market. But, if I wanted to just hookup with a guy, I sure wouldn't need random people on a forum to tell me how to do it. I didn't do that though by choice but there were many guys who let me know they would like to go out.

 

What kind of school do you go to OP?

[StBreton]

Well that's the parent in you... Of course you don't think highly of a girl getting fast with your son... And I'm sure the football team is #1 in state because the players are "humble" and are careful about the girls they sleep with...

 

 

Oh I'm sure those football players get lots of action on and off the field. I'm not saying they aren't. It's just that the OP said that she wondered why her Greek God wasn't all showy and is more reserved (I say it's because he doesn't need to be showy and has some social scruples).

 

If one of my son's is sexually active with a girl, that's fine. I just warn them about "fast" girls ... they are most likely trouble. Yep the mom in me and I'm perfectly ok that that.

[stillafool]

Does this kind of guy ever get "visitors" at his student apartment without warning, like some girl who decides to knock on his door and introduce herself?

 

If he lives in that type of facility I'm sure he has. Any guy can see that a girl who shows up doing something like that is only good for one thing and will not want a relationship with her. It screams "I'm desperate for your attention." I'm telling you a guy this hot probably has a relationship or a mad crush on an equally hot girl who hasn't said more to him than "hello".

[Robert]

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