seekingluck Posted November 27, 2015 Posted November 27, 2015 I have seen a few threads lately about kissing on the first date or not. Or no kissing till several have transpired. And then I started to think about how I feel about missing in the early stages of dating. I realize I don't like to kiss too soon, if I see a longer term future with them. I guess I feel like if they start kissing (and I mean acting on it, not just feeling like it) too soon, even if there is chemistry. I like them less. Or I think they only want something physical. And we aren't connected. And those early kissers always lead to relationships that are hot and heavy, but burn out for me. And I can't envision a long future. On the flip side, if we wait a few more dates, then I feel like they want to get to know me as a person. And we can spend time together without a goal of physical intimacy. And we can spend more time together. Both talking, hanging out, and getting physical. And it lasts longer. What do you all think?
smackie9 Posted November 27, 2015 Posted November 27, 2015 I kissed my husband on the first date....we have been together for almost 26 years now. 4
Glitters Posted November 27, 2015 Posted November 27, 2015 In contrast to smackie, my husband and I kissed and got physical after a very very long time , till our families blended and what not but the build up tension was so strong that we still are trying to cool it but doesn't look like its cooling off anytime soon
SwordofFlame Posted November 27, 2015 Posted November 27, 2015 I have seen a few threads lately about kissing on the first date or not. Or no kissing till several have transpired. And then I started to think about how I feel about missing in the early stages of dating. I realize I don't like to kiss too soon, if I see a longer term future with them. I guess I feel like if they start kissing (and I mean acting on it, not just feeling like it) too soon, even if there is chemistry. I like them less. Or I think they only want something physical. And we aren't connected. And those early kissers always lead to relationships that are hot and heavy, but burn out for me. And I can't envision a long future. On the flip side, if we wait a few more dates, then I feel like they want to get to know me as a person. And we can spend time together without a goal of physical intimacy. And we can spend more time together. Both talking, hanging out, and getting physical. And it lasts longer. What do you all think? I guess for you it's similar to having sex too soon? As a guy, I prefer to kiss on the first date and also to have sex relatively early on as well. I like to assess physical compatibility sooner rather than later.
Gaeta Posted November 27, 2015 Posted November 27, 2015 I'm the opposite. I like kissing at the end of the first date if we both feel it. If a man dates me without showing his attraction toward me I will friendzone him and once you've friendzone a man you lose sexual chemistry and it's hard to get him out of there.
casey.lives Posted November 27, 2015 Posted November 27, 2015 dreaming is just as important as the dream
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