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I don't understand why he did this...


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There's plenty of friendly, outgoing, confident guys out there. This one is on a certain path and you can't just rearrange the stars.

I don't have the relationship thing figured out, but as a guy, I would assume that he's just got you on the backburner in case this thing he has going with this other girl doesn't work out... He might also get some sort of ego boost knowing he has 2 girls that want him at one time. Either way, you're getting the short end of the stick.

Get some more confidence in yourself and know that you deserve and can find better than this...

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In what way do you mean?

 

Working on your boundaries also has an impact on your 'unconditional love' of him. Unconditional love can be unhealthy because it means we love a person regardless of what they do. You *should* have conditions such as being treated as you want before you give your love to someone.

 

Unconditional love is for a parent to a child. Not for two adults to give each other.

 

As for this situation, whether or not he's sleeping or romancing this other girl is really neither here nor there. The bit which is most important is that he's got you at a lower priority than just about everyone else in his life.

 

When you dump him, you don't have to talk about trust - just talk about how you aren't willing to accept being such a low priority anymore.

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