sam light Posted November 27, 2015 Posted November 27, 2015 I had lots of friends and family as a kid. While these memories are mostly pleasant, I still remember often feeling over exposed to people, Their voices ringing in my head. I treasured time alone. As a young adult I kept some family contact but shed most friends. I was kind of happy but I was a young guy and I needed to get laid. So I built up a small network of friends that I needed to be social enough to find girlfriends. My tendency was to drop the friends as soon as I was close with a lady. My relationships didn't last too long as the women I dated were more social than I was. Along the way I've learned to hang on to my small circle of friends not only because I needed them to find dates, but also because they (male and female) are decent people who shouldn't be dropped. Part of life is the pleasure and pain experienced via friends. Now my family contacts are dwindling as the grim reaper takes his toll. My sex drive is diminishing with time. Should my GF leave me, and I lose one more family member, I could see myself feeling the pull of a solitary life. Peace, quiet, no tensions. Someone in my neighborhood lives an extreme version of solitude. Seldom leaving his tiny apartment for days on end. Often sneaking out at 3AM to avoid seeing others. This is too extreme for me, I find it disturbing. But I could see myself seeing a few friends in a month and not having a GF. I don't have it all figured out, does anyone else ponder these things?
AspenBaldwin Posted November 28, 2015 Posted November 28, 2015 Your neighbour and I are a perfect match!!! Hermits to the core!!!
todreaminblue Posted November 28, 2015 Posted November 28, 2015 I get overwhelmed with lots of people around...i happen to love people....but i am sensitive and take on feelings of those around me.....negative and positive...sometimes even physical feelings.......makes me feel a little bit of a freak actually so even though i love people i prefer small groups and close friends....even then i need serious down time for reflection and balance.....i prefer going out at night because i am approached less often.....and i like the solitude.... i dont use people for anything....my circle of friends are normally always lifers.....i dont think its bad that people need alone time.....and i have often dreamed of a little cottage by the sea...by myself.....and i would be happy....for the most part.....eventually though i would want to reach out to others....because i do really enjoy the company of good people..and i do know how to have quality time by myself and enjoy it..for me theres nothing wrong with wanting to spend time alone ....meditation isnt done best in groups.....deb 1
TheArtist Posted November 28, 2015 Posted November 28, 2015 I'm in my mid-thirties and I don't have many friends now, save for a couple that I've known pretty much all my life. While I love experiencing those times where you can laugh a full evening away and wonder where the time has gone, the next day I generally want to be alone for anything up to a week so I can just get things done. I chose my name on here because I'm really creative with music, art, photography and writing, and I just can't do that when people are around. Although I love their company and I love in-depth conversation, making them laugh and discussing anything that comes up at length, it's in very small doses indeed. I'd love have more people I could call friends but in all honesty I just end up needing my alone time more. 1
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