loveflower Posted November 27, 2015 Posted November 27, 2015 Let's say you were introduced to a guy when you were very young. As picky as you, you couldn't find anything wrong with guy. He was tall, handsome, polite and very smart. so you just hanged out with him a couple times, nothing physical happened, not even a kiss. and then you went to another country. and you kept communicating with the guy for about a year. you just wrote to him like a friend. then the guy mentioned to you that he wanted to work for a little while after university before getting marry and coming to you(probably can't blame him for that, because it was kind of like an arranged thing in a conservative society). and you were mad at him for presumed you will marry him and he apologized and ask to start all over again with you. but you didn't address his asking, instead just keep writing to him as a friend, so he stopped writing to you altogether and you stopped writing to him. so, does it count as a relationship in this case? Does a relationship must be physically involved in order to call it a relationship?
Els Posted November 27, 2015 Posted November 27, 2015 I don't think a R needs to be 'physically involved' (I assume you mean 'sex') to be considered a R, but I'm also pretty sure the 'relationship' you describe would not be considered as one even by traditional folks. If you are having a traditional 'arranged marriage' without any dating first, then the R starts when all parties involved agree on the marriage. Otherwise if the arranged marriage is turned down (by the woman herself, or by her parents, or by his parents) then it's no different from an unrequited crush, ergo not a R.
Divasu Posted November 27, 2015 Posted November 27, 2015 Yes and no... Yes, I think there was some type of underlying 'connection' but 'things' got in the way that were beyond anyone's control. That doesn't mean all hope is lost for you, them, and everything in between.
Author loveflower Posted November 27, 2015 Author Posted November 27, 2015 Why does it need to be defined? oh, just wondering...
Got it Posted November 28, 2015 Posted November 28, 2015 Okay if this is you then how do you define it? What random people may say doesn't matter. How you and the guy define it is crucial.
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