henderson14 Posted November 27, 2015 Posted November 27, 2015 So I started seeing this girl who I have great sex with every time I see her and we hang out and go out on dates as if we are a couple, but from the beginning she said she is only looking to be friends and not ready to be in a serious relationship with someone. I'm totally fine with that and our situation as I don't see her as someone I could be exclusive and serious with. My only issue is that I am afraid that she is just lying to herself and that she might already be falling for me. The only difference to me right now is that we don't talk everyday. Am I right to assume that she will everntually want something more or is already. Its just the looks she gives me and she is always wanting to hold my hand and give and get affection.
littlez360 Posted November 27, 2015 Posted November 27, 2015 Well to answer your question, yes, some women can handle friends with benefits. Actually it's very healthy for somebody who has a sexual appetite yet isn't ready to commit. It's better than sleeping around. It's normal to question if her view will change or not though. As a guy, I very often say I'm not actively "looking" for commitment. Communication is key. But it seems like you're probably picking up on her body language and I'd just trust your gut. Play it cool.
candie13 Posted November 27, 2015 Posted November 27, 2015 you're dating her. Having sex is one thing. Faking a RS is different. I think... there are 2 possibilities: she needs to feel she has someone who also respects her and won't treat her like a piece of meat - which is something I can understand. Still, if sex is consistently good, she will eventually fall for it. The other option is that sex may not be quite that good for her and she'll eventually get bored and stop seeing you. In my personal experience, women will fall for consistently good sex and decent treatment. OP, if you two were in contact daily, you'd be in a full blown RS, no matter how you like to call it. Careful not to fall in that trap yourself, because as much as I like to think I am right, the reality is, there are no rules. 1
central Posted November 27, 2015 Posted November 27, 2015 None of my FWB have had any problem keeping things in perspective. I just avoided any where I thought they could not. Some women can handle FWB just fine, and some cannot. It's okay to be affectionate with each other as long as the boundaries remain clear. That requires good communication - as in ANY kind of relationship.
IronZ Posted November 27, 2015 Posted November 27, 2015 I think there will always be one person who will (maybe not at first) start to develop some feelings. It may be something small but eventually as you keep seeing each other you will grow closer. In my experience a FWB type deal is only a temporary one. One person (sometimes both) will be lying to themselves that they can handle it but they can't. It could be as simple as you showing her a bit of kindness and she notices/appreciates it. Could be you actually do activities together like go to movies or get drinks instead of just "Netflix & chill." The handholding you mentioned could lead to more romantic situations. It could be that one of you finds out the other is with someone else or going on another date and there's an inkling of jealousy. Just keep these things in perspective. Eventually one of you will not be ok with just FWB and at that point it's time to make a decision.
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