littlez360 Posted November 27, 2015 Posted November 27, 2015 I agree with you on that. Then you must agree, the more dates you're capable of getting, the better your odds of finding one that leads to a relationship... right? It would be sad to be so closed minded to assume you know exactly what kind of girl you need. You need to experience new people to really learn what would be perfect for you.
littlez360 Posted November 27, 2015 Posted November 27, 2015 You seem like you're just not that much into the dating scene and what's involved. A lot of men and women are like that. To me it's kinda fun, im 29. I know I'm getting older, but there's so many different kind of women out there, they are all different in their own special way. It's like going and tasting a new ice cream every weekend until you find just the right recipe...
littlez360 Posted November 27, 2015 Posted November 27, 2015 Unless we can't resist seeing what else we can offer eachother, she's just the flavor of the week.
Author Kevin De Smet Posted November 27, 2015 Author Posted November 27, 2015 (edited) No matter how many dates, there are probably 300,000 women within my age group that live within a 100km radius of me. Assuming 75,000 of those are single. How will your experience based approach meeting women in bars ever going to get even close to a statistically valid number? These mindbogglingly large numbers are something we tend to repress from our minds as it pulls the facade over the idea that we can handle it using regular techniques. Such as meeting people physically and spending large amounts of time getting to know each and every person manually by experience. Edited November 27, 2015 by Kevin De Smet
littlez360 Posted November 27, 2015 Posted November 27, 2015 I'm certainly not suggesting you date EVERY woman you can... But statistically, the more dates you go on, the better your odds of a date turning into a relationship... Doesn't matter how many cookies have been created, the more you try, the more likely you are to find the one you want to have every night with a glass of milk lol.
littlez360 Posted November 27, 2015 Posted November 27, 2015 So back to the "Science" of it... If you can use method to get more dates, and more dates increase the likelihood of finding a decent relationship... then where's the argument?
blueskyday Posted November 27, 2015 Posted November 27, 2015 If you dissect something too much, you lose the mystery. True that all the elements of relationships can be analyzed, from biological and psychological to sociological; however, the interaction of the factors must be taken into account as well. There are many variables, and not all are known. I love analyzing and understanding the basis of attraction, mating and relationships, but at the end of the day all that matters is truth in being who you are in order to attract someone who needs just that. You can appear alpha male by studying the traits of such men, but if you aren't alpha male in actuality, mother nature will root you out, and your relationships based on such artificiality will be doomed. So enjoy the mystery and the truth
Author Kevin De Smet Posted November 27, 2015 Author Posted November 27, 2015 All this alpha male stuff has to stop. Not everyone needs to be an alpha male, why can't a guy ever be the emotional "bloke in distress"? The whole player scene disgusts me as it's just an excuse for playing socially validated games. Little, More dates do increase those chances. However it is still inefficient and I'd rather not put in the effort, I'm like that. I need to believe in something and if it's just because I have no other options, then I won't do it.
littlez360 Posted November 27, 2015 Posted November 27, 2015 Well unfortunately for other guys in the club/bar/train whatever, the "Alpha male thing" will not stop... It works for me. I don't feel like I'm taking any magic out of the moment just because I know how to woo her into keeping an interest in me. I don't lie to girls, I don't give off a false sense of security or anything. What you see is what you get. There's still plenty of mystery in a person after the initial attraction... And They're NOT GAMES... It may feel like a game to me when I just want to get laid, but in the dating scene, I don't lead anybody on, I don't trick them into thinking im something im not. I really just be totally open, honest, comfortable and confident with myself. I'll never be that "desperate quiet bloke" sitting in the corner with his buddy and leaves with his 2 hours later...
littlez360 Posted November 27, 2015 Posted November 27, 2015 Don't hate the player, just cuz you assume it's a game he's playing...
central Posted November 27, 2015 Posted November 27, 2015 We already screen prospects based on appearance, personality, behaviors, status, etc. This could be done more effectively and scientifically, if enough people participated in a careful, objective evaluation by trained experts. DNA cross-referencing may be useful, but I think that would primarily be for those who want to have children. It's very difficult - perhaps impossible - to determine personality traits from DNA, as so much is affected by upbringing and experience, but specific traits might be useful to evaluate where there is a know, strong genetic influence. At best, though, this could only produce a pool of more suitable candidates. There are far too many variable for this to be reliable - at least until enough large-scale trials are done and the long-term results evaluated to see if such pairing work out in real relationships. I also think there will always be room to allow for random chance, unlikely pairings that work, and simple serendipity. The problem is that the expense would preclude this from being done on a large scale - so most of us will probably just have to muddle through meeting online or in real life by chance and a little personal screening.
littlez360 Posted November 27, 2015 Posted November 27, 2015 This is all on perspective though. I don't have LIFE figured out. I certainly don't have Relationships figured out either. But when it comes to dating, and getting dates. I know how to accomplish this with ease. I myself, don't have any future goals of having a family, wife, kids or anything at this point in my life, it's just not a priority. But I love women, I love charming them, I love interacting with them, and yes of course I love sex... Again, I don't lead anybody on. But I view dating differently that most probably. I don't have much emotion to invest in a relationship right now in my life. I know that guys like me usually disgust other guys in the bar, but I'm okay with that, I'm not there to get the interest of the guys. Most of their disgust with me is a form of envy in most cases anyways.
littlez360 Posted November 27, 2015 Posted November 27, 2015 One more thing to add, I may get a lot of dates and be able to pick up a lot of women when I have my mind set on it. However I personally am horrible at staying interested in one woman... I'm not relationship material for most girls to be honest... but I can get them to try me out for a night or two.
Author Kevin De Smet Posted November 28, 2015 Author Posted November 28, 2015 I personally am horrible at staying interested in one woman... That's fine. Who ever said the current culturally accepted form is the most natural approach? Scientific thinking needs to break down all of the existing dogmas and axioms. We'd be surprised at the outcome which would be very unlikely to be the currently held: 1 girl meets 1 boy, and stay together, and get married...and are happy ever after!
littlez360 Posted November 28, 2015 Posted November 28, 2015 That's fine. Who ever said the current culturally accepted form is the most natural approach? Scientific thinking needs to break down all of the existing dogmas and axioms. We'd be surprised at the outcome which would be very unlikely to be the currently held: 1 girl meets 1 boy, and stay together, and get married...and are happy ever after! Sounds like a fairytale to some, a nightmare to others...
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