IronZ Posted November 26, 2015 Posted November 26, 2015 Girl who is very nice and friendly and cute and smart. All of the things I look for. She is a great communicator and we generally had a blast texting. Met her for dinner and drinks and overall I think it went well. At the end of the date we were talking about a lot of different things. At one point I had asked her what she was looking for in terms of a relationship and so on and she kind of fumbled with her answer, going on a tangent about how she wants a relationship but is not sure where she will be in the long term (may move) and doesn't want to hurt anyone if that happens. I kind of diffused the situation I think by joking about how it's only the first date and we haven't gotten there yet but I still felt some weird vibe with that, like possibly setting up some excuse. She did say she would like to go out again and we had a nice kiss at the end. Then she texted me a few more times after going home. Overall these are good signs but... Still I can't help but think about that strange answer. Is that some sort of indication that she wasn't happy with the date or am I overthinking?
Maggie4 Posted November 26, 2015 Posted November 26, 2015 I see no reason to be worried at this point.
Author IronZ Posted November 27, 2015 Author Posted November 27, 2015 Can you elaborate a little? I just want to be sure I'm not setting myself up for failure or anything here. We did briefly text today as well so it's not like she's playing the disappearing game but there was a significant dropoff in the amount of communication. I'm attributing that to being busy with the holiday so I guess I can't tell at this point but it still makes me a little nervous.
xcupid Posted November 27, 2015 Posted November 27, 2015 I'd view her response as a caution flag. From what you've said, it doesn't sound like she is ready right now for a relationship because her future plans might interfere. That needs to be clarified if you're looking for a LTR because it may turn out to be a waste of time with her.
Author IronZ Posted November 27, 2015 Author Posted November 27, 2015 I'd view her response as a caution flag. From what you've said, it doesn't sound like she is ready right now for a relationship because her future plans might interfere. That needs to be clarified if you're looking for a LTR because it may turn out to be a waste of time with her. Well you are right, I have to see in terms of long term because I do want a relationship (and it sounds like she does too but maybe isn't sure yet) and I don't want to waste my time with her. But at the same time I think it's sort of jumping the gun a little. I mean it was our first date and in my opinion I don't think we should give up just like that because of what could happen later on. Am I wrong? I guess my real question here isn't so much should I worry about my future with her, it's should I worry about my immediate future? I wonder if her saying that sort of thing is her not thinking the date went well. Any thoughts on that?
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