Mark1 Posted November 26, 2015 Posted November 26, 2015 I’ll try to be brief: December 2013: -I worked at Barnes and Noble -Met an awesome women -Remembered her name, added her on FB, she lives 8 hours away and is only in my town every so often to visit family Summer 2014: -I’m in her town for a wedding -I message her asking if she wants to meet up. (Keep in mind, we hadn’t talked at all on FB before this) -I figure I'd get a reply that just says "hey, i'm busy but thanks.' Instead, she sends "I'm out of town this weekend, but I'll be in your town in September, wanna get coffee?" -I figure this initiative is good. September 2014: -September comes around and we meet up in my town for coffee -Had a lot of fun -Afterwards she gave me a kiss on the cheek and messaged me that night saying I'm "awesome" and shed "love to do it again." Also she paid for the coffee even though I insisted. December 2014 -I messaged her to see if she was around for the holidays in my town. -She says, “how about the 26th?” -I tell her “sure, thats my birthday, that’ll be fun!” She replies “I can treat you to cake!” -We get pizza/cake. She lets me pick her up from her parents house. -Great conversation, but not much flirting/touching on her end -She said she hates meeting guys at bars because she's not into the one night stand thing and she can't imagine having sex with someone she can't see herself in a relationship with (I figured this was a bad sign, that she said this) -On the other hand, she asked me what I like about older women, which sounds like she's interested. -She does however, tell me I have great eyes, got me a card and chocolate for my bday and paid for dinner -She then tells me she wants me to meet her family, and she’s already told them all about me, and where we met, and my picture. -We go back to her parents house and I chill with her family for an hour or so, really fun. Unfortunately she sat on one end of the room, and she sat on the other. I feel like I’ve gotten a lot of mixed signals. On one hand she treats me for my birthday when we barely know each other, and invites me over to her family, and let me pick her up, and told her family about me. On the other hand she didn’t flirt much, and jokingly commented how I was so young (I’m 26 she’s 45), which is a sign she is uncomfortable with the age difference. It seemed to me she wanted a FWB for when she’s in town visiting her family, but now I’m thinking she just wants to be friends. Which is fine, but I was surprised she just wanted to be friends considered our age difference. Afterwards she gave me a hug and said she’d call me soon and happy birthday. I messaged her after saying "thanks for the bday gifts, you are wonderful," and she replied "my family loved you. I think you're wonderful too!" We occasionally keep on touch on Facebook since Dec 2014. Not much though. Occasional "liking" of each other's pics is about it. She tells me shes going to be in town this weekend, we are getting lunch on Friday. Are we just friends? Should I kiss her?
Gloria25 Posted November 26, 2015 Posted November 26, 2015 Maybe you oughta ask her... I mean, to me sounds like you're just a cool friend she hangs with while in town. Now, her kissing you on the cheek is a good sign, but I'd feel more enthusiastic if it was a peck on the lips instead of cheek. But really, even "if" you pull this off with her, can you do something that is sustainable? I mean, seems like she's only in town around the holidays and 8 hrs of distance is kinda hard to build something on.
Author Mark1 Posted November 26, 2015 Author Posted November 26, 2015 Maybe you oughta ask her... I mean, to me sounds like you're just a cool friend she hangs with while in town. Now, her kissing you on the cheek is a good sign, but I'd feel more enthusiastic if it was a peck on the lips instead of cheek. But really, even "if" you pull this off with her, can you do something that is sustainable? I mean, seems like she's only in town around the holidays and 8 hrs of distance is kinda hard to build something on. I don't want a relationship. Just a friends with benefits situation. I just think its odd for someone her age to want to be just friends w someone my age.
Gloria25 Posted November 26, 2015 Posted November 26, 2015 I don't want a relationship. Just a friends with benefits situation. I just think its odd for someone her age to want to be just friends w someone my age. Oh, then I think you got it with her. I mean, she obviously clicks with you and you two get along, there's chemistry. She's an older woman and knows what she wants...I'm sure she won't "blush" and/or get offended Just be like, "We're great friends, have a great time, wondering if you want to consider a friends with benefits type thing?" Good luck!!!
Author Mark1 Posted November 28, 2015 Author Posted November 28, 2015 We are meeting next month instead. Any more advice?
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