Going out for coffee with my former teacher tonight

[loser419]

I'm going out for coffee with my former teacher tonight. I'm 18 and graduated from school this year, she's in her 40s and was my teacher when I was a junior.

 

I have had a very strong crush on her since I was in her class. I'm making this thread because I'm not sure how I should behave around her and whether or not I should tell her I like her, and I need some advice.

 

My feelings for her have been strong enough that they have been destructive, I am fully aware of their destructive nature and that it would be for the best for me to not have them. For example, I was angry at myself for not talking with her more before I graduated, so I self-harmed a few times this year. Additionally, I lost a significant amount of weight at an unhealthy rate earlier this year because I was so lovesick for her.

 

I am fine now, however, as that is the past.

 

What matters is that I am seeing her today, in less than 3 hours.

 

I understand that if she reacts poorly to my confession I will probably never see her again, and I have made peace with that. This encounter will probably act as closure for me.

 

I know I have no future with this woman, but I wouldn't mind having sex with her and cuddling.

 

I think it goes without saying that I should tell her at the end, if I am going to.

 

Another question that has been on my mind is whether or not she thinks of this encounter as a date. I would assume she thinks of it as just a chance to catch up, but I wasn't exactly subtle about liking her and I sometimes got the sense she may have liked me back (this was confirmed by a neutral observer, it seemed she may have liked me too).

 

Because not telling her might lead to us becoming friends, which would mean that I would continually encounter her, which would allow my crush to continue and perhaps intensify further, I think it is for the best to tell her that I like her tonight.

 

How should I phrase it? Just say "I like you a lot"?

 

peace

[Oregon_Dude]

Keep talking, I'm getting close..

[loser419]

Keep talking, I'm getting close..

if you need to know something just ask me specifically.

[Oregon_Dude]

if you need to know something just ask me specifically.

I don't need to KNOW anything. I do, however, need pics of her.

[stillafool]

Just tell her "I am romantically interested in you." See what she says. Either way you will have your answer and can move forward.

[Gloria25]

Why, why do your posts sound similar to a dude who has a crush on his coworker, who is also older than him and this crush is of a destructive nature?

 

Anywho, I'll bite cuz I'll give you a hypothetical answer.

 

I say just go out, have coffee and catch up, talk about the news, weather, etc. I mean make it casual.

 

Cuz if you haven't seen her in the longest and just spring on her all this, that's a bit much.

 

Also, you gotta feel her out before you spring this on her. For sll you know she's got a bf, husband, terminal illness.

 

So meet up, catch up and maybe go out a few times with her before you drop the "crush" bomb on her.

 

Good luck!!!!