adiamond Posted November 25, 2015 Posted November 25, 2015 (edited) We broke up like 3 months ago. He recently was tagged in a post about doing some volunteer work for a charity and I was just really happy for him. Before we broke up, he talked about how he doesn't do volunteer work and he was kind of selfish so I'm just glad to see that he's actually something good and giving him time to help others. When we broke up I was really upset and hurt that he rejected me but I'm doing OK now. Idk what do you guys think? I don't want to come off as desperate if I like his status but idk I was just glad to see he's using his time to help others. I don't want it to be nasty between us but idk I don't want to give him some satisfaction that I still care when he broke my heart or that I'd take him back either so idk. I think he might have also started dating someone right after breaking up with me (2 weeks) but I'm not 100% sure on that. He was talking to her while we were still together but I'm not 100% sure if they're dating but I think so.. Edited November 25, 2015 by adiamond
TaraMaiden2 Posted November 25, 2015 Posted November 25, 2015 No. Stay away. NC. Keep it up. (And please don't come back with a shedload of justifications..."The thing is...." or "Yes, but.....") The answer's still 'no'. 1
GunslingerRoland Posted November 25, 2015 Posted November 25, 2015 I don't know the backstory, but it sounds pretty harmless to me.
Author adiamond Posted November 25, 2015 Author Posted November 25, 2015 No. Stay away. NC. Keep it up. (And please don't come back with a shedload of justifications..."The thing is...." or "Yes, but.....") The answer's still 'no'. Okay I don't think I'm going to either. He never liked one of my statuses even when I posted about getting an important interview or anything really. I don't want to be the one reaching out first (even if it is just a status like) because he really hurt me. 2
Author adiamond Posted November 25, 2015 Author Posted November 25, 2015 I don't know the backstory, but it sounds pretty harmless to me. Basically broke up with me (claims it is because he won't try LDR with me) I cried and told him how much he meant to me but he still broke up with me. He then try to string me along because he wasn't sure of his decision and kept saying "maybe we'll get back together" until I got upset and we haven't talked since 3 months ago. He possibly is dating a girl he was texting a lot when we were still together ~3 weeks after our break up.
Ic1 Posted November 25, 2015 Posted November 25, 2015 Why isn't he blocked so you don't see anything with him on Fb?
Silver_star Posted November 25, 2015 Posted November 25, 2015 Okay I don't think I'm going to either. He never liked one of my statuses even when I posted about getting an important interview or anything really. I don't want to be the one reaching out first (even if it is just a status like) because he really hurt me. If you MUST keep him on FB please don't like anything of his on FB. You will most likely regret it. It's pointless really. You're feelings should matter more to you than his at this point. It doesn't mean things aren't cordial or that you aren't being polite just because you don't like his status or because you don't talk to him. He broke up with you. The fact that you still have him on FB is more than generous of you. Maybe later on you could be real friends. After the both of you have had other meaningful relationships and time has healed you. If you cant peel yourself away from his FB long enough to let that happen you should probably do yourself a favor and remove him. A lot of people (including me at some points in my BU process) misunderstand that NC is for you to heal and move on, and not to give them any kind if "impression" about your feelings for him. He may have no reaction at all to your posts/likes/statuses because he is farther along to the moving past his feelings point on account that he broke up with YOU. Feel happy for him on the inside. Leave your comments of approval and or disapproval of his new life to yourself.
J21 Posted November 25, 2015 Posted November 25, 2015 What's to be gained from liking his status? It's literally POINTLESS. It can only can harm you at the end it.
Author adiamond Posted November 25, 2015 Author Posted November 25, 2015 Yah I'm not going to. When we broke up, I reached out to him like 3 days after the break up to wish him good luck on something that he was super stressed about. When I posted about getting an important interview and when things happen in my life, he didn't even reach out to me so I'm done with that.
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