aussietigerwolf Posted November 26, 2015 Posted November 26, 2015 If he was mad about returning the stuff he took and not the gift then I'd wonder if he hadn't already given them away as gifts himself. 2
MidwestUSA Posted November 26, 2015 Posted November 26, 2015 Thanks for your responses everyone. I still want some clarity on why he is angry at me for asking for my stuff. He went from feeling bad/guilty about ending things to being pissed off at me within minutes...why? You busted him. Plain and simple. As someone else said, technically, he stole from you. Is there a stone that would STOP my vivid dreams? I just want a decent night's sleep. 2
mightycpa Posted November 26, 2015 Posted November 26, 2015 Is there a stone that would STOP my vivid dreams? I just want a decent night's sleep.You could always get stoned. That would probably work. As to the asshat, OP, well, maybe you should make him a nice colorful gift to show your appreciation for him breaking up with you and showing you his true colors. 3
sandylee1 Posted November 26, 2015 Posted November 26, 2015 Thanks for your responses everyone. I still want some clarity on why he is angry at me for asking for my stuff. He went from feeling bad/guilty about ending things to being pissed off at me within minutes...why? He's pissed off that you are more interested in getting your stuff back than being bothered about the break up......it's called ego. His pride is hurt. He isn't worth much in your eyes and he feels small.
Popsicle Posted November 26, 2015 Posted November 26, 2015 Do guys expect u to cry and beg for the relationship to continue?? Yes yes they do. For some reason, dumpers think they are the victims that are more hurt.
Popsicle Posted November 26, 2015 Posted November 26, 2015 I once had an exbf refuse to give me some of my (very) personal things back after we broke up. He used that to control me.
Samhain Posted November 26, 2015 Posted November 26, 2015 Yes yes they do. For some reason, dumpers think they are the victims that are more hurt. I dunno about that, everytime I've ended a relationship I always feel the same way.. Wishing the ground would open up and just....swallow her.
marky00 Posted November 26, 2015 Posted November 26, 2015 Maybe it's just me, but it's strange to ask someone to return gifts. It would rub me the wrong way. Exception are things like engagement rings, or things very valuable that are considered loans or temporary during the course of a relationship. Next time in a relationship, only give gifts that you are willing to part with as "gifts". I think it saves some dignity when things end and just end without weirdness like that. I have created some amazing things for ex's out of my own hands and have great values but when I parted with it, I parted with it. The dignify thing is if my ex wants to throw it away, she would ask me if I want it back. nah the guy is a moron. Had had already contemplated breakup in his mind and she was on to him. She probably shouldnt have parted with them but he absolutely shouldnt have taken or accepted them. Yes things given while a relationship is sincere should not be given back. This relationship was already over. My EX gave me her old iphone5 as a "gift". Of course she had already started seeing her new bf behind my back. And since my financial support hasd actually paid for that iphone5 and her upgraded iphone6.... guess what i did with that iphone5 when i got home? u dont want to know lol. 1
veggirl Posted November 26, 2015 Posted November 26, 2015 He's mad as a defense mechanism. He's pissed because you are acknowledging he's a creep who helps himself to other peoples things and that's embarrassing for him. Instead of just being like "okay, sorry" he is turning it back on you so he doesn't have to admit he's wrong. 1
Author nadzz Posted November 27, 2015 Author Posted November 27, 2015 I dunno about that, everytime I've ended a relationship I always feel the same way.. Wishing the ground would open up and just....swallow her. u dumped her and hoped the ground would swallow her?? why is that? 1
Author nadzz Posted November 27, 2015 Author Posted November 27, 2015 I once had an exbf refuse to give me some of my (very) personal things back after we broke up. He used that to control me. I'm starting to think that's whats happening to me. What happens after? How does he use this to control you? Has he been in contact?
Author nadzz Posted November 27, 2015 Author Posted November 27, 2015 He's pissed off that you are more interested in getting your stuff back than being bothered about the break up......it's called ego. His pride is hurt. He isn't worth much in your eyes and he feels small. This is exactly what I thought it was. I displayed no interest in the breakup and complete interest in my stuff. What do u think of him if this is the case?
Popsicle Posted November 27, 2015 Posted November 27, 2015 I'm starting to think that's whats happening to me. What happens after? How does he use this to control you? Has he been in contact? That was years ago. We have long ago parted ways, but before that, perhaps he had a "come to the light" moment because he knocked on my door one night and gave me my things back. He wanted to get back together but I didn't want to. Maybe if he knew beforehand that I wouldn't want to get back together, he wouldn't have given them back to me? Who knows... 2
lollipopspot Posted November 27, 2015 Posted November 27, 2015 Send him a text - "hey, are you planning on sending over my things?" If he doesn't, then text him in a few weeks and say, "Just so you know, those stones are now cursed." 2
sandylee1 Posted November 27, 2015 Posted November 27, 2015 This is exactly what I thought it was. I displayed no interest in the breakup and complete interest in my stuff. What do u think of him if this is the case? I think he's a fool and you shouldn't try and analyse his actions. He just needs to send your stuff back. There was a girl whose BF broke up with her (via text) and she just responded (via text ) 'okay , good luck'. You know he went balistic. Said she never loved him.. ... said she wasn't fighting for him and that he was going to propose but not any more. His ego took a big hit. Then he started begging her to get back...saying his kids missed her and all that... I think it's a good way to respond to the dumper .... they won't know what hit them. I guess in some ways it's human nature to expect the person who you break up with to be a little upset.....if they aren't you feel like they aren't bothered. You see even if I was bothered I'd never show it to the guy. Just make out like you dodged a bullet. 2
Popsicle Posted November 28, 2015 Posted November 28, 2015 u dumped her and hoped the ground would swallow her?? why is that? I think (hope) what he meant was that he just wanted her to go away quietly and peacefully and not remain in his life. 1
Author nadzz Posted November 30, 2015 Author Posted November 30, 2015 I think he's a fool and you shouldn't try and analyse his actions. He just needs to send your stuff back. There was a girl whose BF broke up with her (via text) and she just responded (via text ) 'okay , good luck'. You know he went balistic. Said she never loved him.. ... said she wasn't fighting for him and that he was going to propose but not any more. His ego took a big hit. Then he started begging her to get back...saying his kids missed her and all that... I think it's a good way to respond to the dumper .... they won't know what hit them. I guess in some ways it's human nature to expect the person who you break up with to be a little upset.....if they aren't you feel like they aren't bothered. You see even if I was bothered I'd never show it to the guy. Just make out like you dodged a bullet. I really like this answer. I am not bothered by the breakup because I don't want someone who doesn't want me. So u think he flipped out because I didn't care about the breakup?
Author nadzz Posted November 30, 2015 Author Posted November 30, 2015 Send him a text - "hey, are you planning on sending over my things?" If he doesn't, then text him in a few weeks and say, "Just so you know, those stones are now cursed." haha good one If I text him, will it seem like I can't get him off my mind and I'm just looking for an excuse to talk to him? This is how I would see it. I do not want him to think I give a damn about him, especially if he's a thief.
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