queenie01 Posted May 27, 2005 Posted May 27, 2005 What does this mean: My bf broke up with me a month ago and we see each other at work and he wont even look at me.. so the other day he emailed me and said he wished it didnt have to be so awkward and i told him he made it that way...he is handling this like a complete child and he told me he was acting that way with my best interest in mind, he didnt want to lead me on or give me hope... Nice guy huh!! I guess I can take it that there is no hope for reconcilation now...
LucreziaBorgia Posted May 27, 2005 Posted May 27, 2005 When a guy says "I don't want to lead you on or give you false hope" - there is absolutely nothing ambiguous about this, and no need to read anything between the lines.
st8toftheheart Posted May 27, 2005 Posted May 27, 2005 Why are you surprised at his awkwardsness? I'm sure there are some guilt feelings there, even though he doesn't regret the decision to break up. All too often it seems that people think the person who breaks up has an easier time of it. It all depends on the situation really. Atleast he was clear when he said he didn't want to give you false hope. That says to me I have options now. Don't put my eggs in one basket. Start to move on.
Author queenie01 Posted May 27, 2005 Author Posted May 27, 2005 I already have started to move on and i felt that comment he made was egotistical because who said i even wanted him back. Also he gave me other false hope by saying time apart will make us realize if we were right for each other and also had a great "idea" to keep my stuff so we can get together in a couple weeks to talk and see how we feel... Which that never happened so i finally just asked him for my stuff back and he is going to drop it off at my house possibly next week, i dont even really want him coming to my house tho, we work together so he can just bring the crap here, no need for him to come over..right! He suggested that tho... Also he is now coming to the gym at the same exact time as me so i plan to switch my gym schedule next week to avoid him...i am just going to disappear.. Dont know how he will react to that since he knows he can now see me everyday at 11.
alphamale Posted May 27, 2005 Posted May 27, 2005 Originally posted by queenie01 he is handling this like a complete child and he told me he was acting that way with my best interest in mind, he didnt want to lead me on or give me hope... personally I think he is doing the right thing, QUEENIE01. it is the least painful and most efficient way for both of you to move on. doing the "friends" thing is dicey at best.
Treasa Posted May 27, 2005 Posted May 27, 2005 Originally posted by queenie01 I already have started to move on and i felt that comment he made was egotistical because who said i even wanted him back. Well obviously you do, otherwise you wouldn't be asking so much about what to do. And a lot of men can sense it, even if you don't think you're giving off any vibes. Don't let him go to your house. Tell him to either mail your things or bring them to the office or gym or whatever. Trust me on this one.
Author queenie01 Posted May 27, 2005 Author Posted May 27, 2005 What is the motive behind telling him that? Just curious?
purple21 Posted May 27, 2005 Posted May 27, 2005 yeah - you definitely need space apart for awhile after a break up that's what i've learned - even though you say you can handle being friends - it always gets weird somehow and makes things worse - especially if you don't want to get back together - distance is the best - maybe after awhile you can be friendly again when you both have completely moved on
Author queenie01 Posted May 27, 2005 Author Posted May 27, 2005 Has anyone ever experienced the ex wanting the person back down the road?
st8toftheheart Posted May 27, 2005 Posted May 27, 2005 Originally posted by queenie01 Has anyone ever experienced the ex wanting the person back down the road? Once but that's onyl because their current BF treated them worse. But usually its only a momentary lapse.
Author queenie01 Posted May 27, 2005 Author Posted May 27, 2005 I suppose you are right....well his reason for the breakup was that "something was missing from our relationship" so dont know if he would ever have regrets or change his mind, as of now he doesnt... I am going to try my best to just avoid him at all costs...its too hard for me to see him everyday and i also think it will make him wonder what happened to me/
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