westernxer Posted May 28, 2005 Posted May 28, 2005 Originally posted by swirlingdaisy A slut to me is someone who gives it up to anyone, with as many as possible, who has no standards, no self respect, thrives on one night stands, goes out just to pick someone up/get picked up, would drop their pants in a heartbeat with anyone. What's wrong with that?
quankanne Posted May 28, 2005 Posted May 28, 2005 as defined by my male college roommate: a slut is a girl who sleeps with everyone. a bitch is a girl who sleeps with everyone but me!
westernxer Posted May 28, 2005 Posted May 28, 2005 Originally posted by quankanne as defined by my male college roommate: a slut is a girl who sleeps with everyone. a bitch is a girl who sleeps with everyone but me! I've heard that, too. Amen!
moimeme Posted May 28, 2005 Posted May 28, 2005 Moimeme did some kind of funky thread on this last summer at some point. It was a delightful debate, maybe if you ask her she'll remember the name of the thread. Thanks for the credit, but as you see it was actually Mr. Spock who started it. I don't really care who calls who a slut or why.
Mr Spock Posted May 28, 2005 Posted May 28, 2005 There is no such thing as a "slut" it's a phrase coined mostly by women to describe any other woman that they hate, or envy, or look down on. Sad but true.
westernxer Posted May 28, 2005 Posted May 28, 2005 Originally posted by Mr Spock There is no such thing as a "slut" it's a phrase coined mostly by women to describe any other woman that they hate, or envy, or look down on. Sad but true. That's what I've always believed...
Isis Posted May 28, 2005 Posted May 28, 2005 Originally posted by NutellaGirl I looked for a defination and this is what i came accross.... "Slut is a slang term used to indicate a person who has frequent sexual relationships with different people, especially short-term affairs. Coming from the late Middle English slutte (meaning "mud") the term is usually applied to women (and can compared to the more negative slag), but is often used in the gay male and bisexual communities about people who are promiscuous in that they have, or are reputed to have, many sexual partners, or whose sexuality is voracious, indiscriminate, and shameful." Right, so that pretty much includes everyone today- all the men and women. Isn't that definition the way most everyone lives today? I mean, no one seems to care anymore about saving themselves for the right person, pretty much everyone's fing around.
Author st8toftheheart Posted May 28, 2005 Author Posted May 28, 2005 Originally posted by tiki Cyclical?!...You're going to need to be INVINCIBLE to come out alive after this thread. Nah. I can take the critisim. Its ok for people to disagree. Sometimes topics are meant to push people to defend their beliefs and opinion.
Author st8toftheheart Posted May 28, 2005 Author Posted May 28, 2005 Originally posted by Pocky Basically. If you crossed paths with someone you considered a slut she'd probably want nothing to do with you either. Sad thing is, there's some pretty good people out there that don't have any issues with their bodies or issues with expressing their sexuality that you'd distance from your life. That's all on you though, right? Not anyone's concern, but yours. True, but that can also be said of many things. There are people who would have nothing to do with a homosexual althought they may be a very good person. I think we have to acknowledge that prejudice exists. The difference is acting on that prejudice. Meaning though I may consider someone a slut I would never chastise them for being a slut. But you're right, I'd probably never want anything to do with them other than be an aquantance. Our lives mold us, our experiences shape us. I never expected for people do share the same views as I, but I always like to understand how others views things. It actually sometimes does change things for me, so I think that's what the value of these types of discussion do. It may also change things for others.
Author st8toftheheart Posted May 28, 2005 Author Posted May 28, 2005 Originally posted by swirlingdaisy A slut to me is someone who gives it up to anyone, with as many as possible, who has no standards, no self respect, thrives on one night stands, goes out just to pick someone up/get picked up, would drop their pants in a heartbeat with anyone. That's what I always considered as the traditional definition of a slut.
Author st8toftheheart Posted May 28, 2005 Author Posted May 28, 2005 Originally posted by Mr Spock There is no such thing as a "slut" it's a phrase coined mostly by women to describe any other woman that they hate, or envy, or look down on. Sad but true. Created by women but now primarily used by men wouldn't you say?
moimeme Posted May 28, 2005 Posted May 28, 2005 st8toftheheart, you're a virgin aren't you? Sex is a much bigger deal to people who haven't had it.
westernxer Posted May 28, 2005 Posted May 28, 2005 Originally posted by moimeme Sex is a much bigger deal to people who haven't had it. ...or to those suffering from religious guilt. Last girl I went out with had an issue with this after she put out for me. I split shortly after. Sorry, but I didn't sign up for this.
leila222 Posted May 28, 2005 Posted May 28, 2005 I've always thought a slut was the type of person that can't say no, even when they want to. My girlfriend sleeps around but she wants it and doesn't expect anything from the guys. I don't think she is a slut. My other girlfriend will sleep with anyone that pays her attention. or asks her. she doesn't really enjoy sex, or so she says. When we go out, she is always trying to get men to look at her and does anything to get that attention. i think she is a bit slutty. But i agree with the other posts. i hate it when women are attacked for having sex and for wanting it or pursuing it. Men do it all the time, girls can too.
goodnbad Posted May 29, 2005 Posted May 29, 2005 Ah, but can you be a slut without having had sex with particular people? I was thinking of an occasion that some friends and I attended not too long ago. There was this attractive-looking gal there that was basically hanging off 90% of the guys that would walk in the door (this would be the regulars, I assumed). She'd go up to them, kiss and hug them (we're talking crotch contact here), rubbing against them, you get the idea. If the guy sat down, 10 to 1 she'd be in their lap for a few...until a new victim popped into the room. She didn't have sex with any of these guys that we knew of, but everyone at our table pretty much had her branded as a slut. In them good old days, we woulda called her a c***teaser. IMO, this type of person has a way low self-esteem and tries to raise it by being 'popular'. Sadly, self-respect has little to do with it. Part of me felt bad for her, that she seemed to feel the need to stoop to such behaviour to get attention, but obviously it works for her for the most part. I didn't see any guys in there screaming, "No, stop it, don't touch me!" Let's be honest, if a man's girlfriend/wife wasn't around, not too many would refuse the attention. But it's not like she couldn't have gotten it anyhow, since she was pretty. But apparently she craved more. Yep, I think that being promiscuous is only part of it.
Author st8toftheheart Posted May 30, 2005 Author Posted May 30, 2005 Originally posted by moimeme st8toftheheart, you're a virgin aren't you? Sex is a much bigger deal to people who haven't had it. Lol. You think I was by the way I keep talking, but no. I've only had 4 relationships in my 36 years and all had some type of sexual activity, with one of them where I was married for 10 years. I've been called old fashioned, reserved even a prude, but I guess I just have to be true myself and go with what I am comfortable with and share that with someone who has the same mindset.
HokeyReligions Posted May 30, 2005 Posted May 30, 2005 Someone else mentioned something in the definition that I dont' think anyone else has addressed: "Shameful" Being a slut is something of which to be ashamed. Why? Because the standards of the day when that term was coined said so, and it's carried forward even today, although the stigma associated with the word is fading and changing and people are not ostracized like they once were. How many of you (and you don't have to answer, but think about it) associate personal guilt or shame if you are called a 'slut' by a person older than you, or for whom you have great respect? (parent, teacher, minister, authority figure) How about someone you know casually, say at work or an acquaintence in a social circle? Someone like me for example, only in real life? Someone who defines a slut differently than you. Would it matter to you at all? If we knew each other in person and I thought you or your gf were a slut and did not respect that aspect of you (or your gf's) life---would it matter to you or trigger any emotions in you? (defensive, disgust, disrespect, anger, shame, etc.) [note: my views are mine own and I am not calling anyone a slut or saying that anyone I would consider a slut is somehow less deserving than anyone else] How many of you feel sorry for, or do not respect younger persons whom you may think of as a slut? I'm not talking about peers joking around or throwing the word out in a light-hearted manner, but using it in all seriousness. When I was a little kid I heard someone call a girl a slut in front of her boyfriend. The girl got upset and the boyfriend took off after the name-caller to make him take it back because it was something that was shameful. Guys, if someone called your girlfriend a slut, how would that make you feel? Would you be angry? Upset? Hurt? Not care? Again, you don't have to answer, but think about how it would really make you feel. How about the younger generation---how would it make you feel if your parents didn't like your gf because they though her slutty? How would you, or would you at all, defend her? How does someone get that reputation? Does reputation matter to you?
Author st8toftheheart Posted May 30, 2005 Author Posted May 30, 2005 Originally posted by HokeyReligions Guys, if someone called your girlfriend a slut, how would that make you feel? Would you be angry? Upset? Hurt? Not care? Again, you don't have to answer, but think about how it would really make you feel. How about the younger generation---how would it make you feel if your parents didn't like your gf because they though her slutty? How would you, or would you at all, defend her? How does someone get that reputation? Does reputation matter to you? This all depends. Well if I myself wasn't struggling with question whether the person I was with was what I considered the definition of a slut, and someone had come up and called her a slut, I think I would take the typical reaction any partner would take in this scenario. However, if I were already struggling with it. I beleive I would have still taken the usual steps or had the usual reaction, but I think I would have broken up with them shortly after. As for friends and family. If I truly respected my family and friend's opinion when it came to this topic, I would obviously take their advice. Perhaps I'm not seeing what their seeing. It must also be a common opinion, as our definitions obviously differ. Now, if I didn't respect their opinion, then I would make the judgement solely on my own accord. Sometimes people give themselves the reputation. By their actions, what they say or do, and the most importantly who this do this with, too, or around. As that is the manner in which they are judged. Right or wrong. Reputation matters to me yes. Generally if you have a reputation of doing something, that means you are pretty consistent in doing that thing. So its something negative, then obviously it play a role in my deicsion making.
lindya Posted May 30, 2005 Posted May 30, 2005 The word slut is just a term of abuse, isn't it? Sometimes it's applied jokingly between friends, but otherwise I'd view it as one of those terms that defines nobody other than the person who uses it.
Mr Spock Posted June 2, 2005 Posted June 2, 2005 Originally posted by st8toftheheart Created by women but now primarily used by men wouldn't you say? No, I wouldn't say.
GeorgiaDawgs Posted June 3, 2005 Posted June 3, 2005 Just wanted to let y'all know that I hear my children sometimes say that he/she is a "Slut", so I asked them if they had a clue what it meant. My son is 12 and my daughter is 13 (I have also told them that the word is so ugly to use and soap would be in their mouths if I heard it in my house again) Of course both gave me this reply, a slut is someone that flirts to much (while having a boyfriend), someone that likes a different boy or girl in a weeks time, or someone that has dumped one of their friends. Now this is coming from middle school kids that "say" they date or go out with he/she. As I ask my own children, where do you go? the lunchroom, math class or the playground. I cannot imagine kids in middle school running around calling people sluts but I guess they do. I did tell my kids that I must have been a huge slut since I liked different boys in elementary school and middle school even though I was too afraid to tell them.
FolderWife Posted June 3, 2005 Posted June 3, 2005 omg! Just last night, my husband and I were in bed, and he said, "All women are sluts." I said, "ALL WOMEN ARE NOT SLUTS!!!" I continued, "Mother Teresa wasn't a slut " and he said, "I'm sure she thought about it..." I said..."um...thinking about sex doesn't make you a slut." Then I asked him what he thought a slut was. We couldn't come up with a good answer.
Guest Posted June 12, 2005 Posted June 12, 2005 a slut is a woman who dresses in an unattractive manner....not glamourous at all...lacking in fashion sense....she either wears baggy clothes hiding her body and looking frumpy or too tight fitting clothes...again looking frumpy or like a bag lady she buys her poorly designed ill fitting clothes at stores like kmart or walmart she has no clue how to dress in a sexually appealing way..she is usually fat, and overweight, has bad hair and pimples she usually buys cheap 5 dollar cotton spandex shirts that are too tight revealing rolls of fat on her waist and her short shorts are too tight and her flesh plumps out around the shorts she is girl who doesn't fit in her clothes properly she has no clue on how to dress in a sexually appealing way...she could at least take some tips from the glamour girls in hollywood
moimeme Posted June 12, 2005 Posted June 12, 2005 a slut is a woman who dresses in an unattractive manner....not glamourous at all...lacking in fashion sense....she either wears baggy clothes hiding her body and looking frumpy or too tight fitting clothes...again looking frumpy or like a bag lady That's not a slut; that's a frump ROTFL
whichwayisup Posted June 13, 2005 Posted June 13, 2005 Originally posted by moimeme That's not a slut; that's a frump ROTFL she has no clue on how to dress in a sexually appealing way...she could at least take some tips from the glamour girls in hollywood Uhmm, so how is this slutty if she isn't dressing in a sexually appealing way???
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