anonymousbear00101100 Posted November 27, 2015 Posted November 27, 2015 All you can do is lay it on the line-- ONCE-- and then you leave it up to her. Or you sever yourself. Do you recommend laying it all on the line for her to decide though? Or is severing yourself the best road to go. That's heartbreaking either way. She seems a bit immature if she's willing to marry another guy 7 months later. I honestly think you're better off.
marky00 Posted November 30, 2015 Posted November 30, 2015 No clue. When you figure out, tell me how. I'm in the same boat. Everyone tells me to let go and move on. My brain tells me to let go and move on. My heart doesn't want to budge one bit. It's a problem. add me to the list.
K2z Posted November 30, 2015 Posted November 30, 2015 How can anybody get married 7 months after someone else? It takes YEARS to truly know a person. That was my position. My full back story is here and here. We were together just under three years and I was DAMN close to putting a ring on her finger. Basically soon after she returned from Europe. Let's see, timeline: Late April- left for Thailand May - Went to Europe Late June - Broke up over Facebook Mid-August- Breadcrumb: "I miss you so much" Mid-August- Toxic Breadcrumb: "I miss you a lots and forever" Late August- I send letter offering sincere and in depth plan for marriage and a life together, saying I realize I've gone too slow. September and October: Crickets. Radio Silence. November: Engagement photo goes up on FB. I politely email to ask if she is marrying. That unleashes four emails over two days, which happen to be the two days before her wedding. She says things like "love you forever" but never got enough of a plan, and she "cried in her heart" when I didn't go to the parents' house to declare my intention to marry. Mid November: Wedding pix surface on FB via mutual friends. I am crushed.
Trauma_Luna Posted December 1, 2015 Posted December 1, 2015 Six years, she left me 3 months ago. She's living a great life, she's also with someone else already. This killing me.
whiterose2334 Posted December 1, 2015 Posted December 1, 2015 It doesn't matter who initiated the breakup. All breakup sucks. I left my ex while I still love him. I broke it off because he kept repeating the same mistake that destryoed my trust. I cry every night like I die alive. It's been about a week now and I feel so blue. I'm taking these steps and hope that I'll feel better soon. So I'm gonna share it with you and we win ourselves back together. 1. Cry if you need to. It doesn't mean you're weak if cry. I'm a woman I cry a lot and I let it out with my friends (not in a whining way but just expressing my whole feeling) 2. When you start to blame yourself or wonder if it's your fault, tell yourself nobody's perfect. If it meant to be, it would have worked out. Try to accept things the way they are. 3. Get busy a lot. If yougo school, pay attention to it. If you work, stay focus on it. Do what you enjoy doing without her. 4. Don't go on the rebound too soon. Take it slow. 5. Don't hope to get back her. Don't hope that she'd come back. Because when you hope like that it will only make you obsessed and attached which is no good for you. It might not be perfect steps. But this is what I'm trying to do. Heart crushed but you have to live. And you will live.
mightycpa Posted December 1, 2015 Posted December 1, 2015 it's one of those things that doesn't happen suddenly it's very gradual. You don't wake up one day and instantly feel better. Actually, for me, most times that's exactly what happened. I woke up one day and I knew instantly that I was indifferent. Instantly. There was only one time that it didn't happen that way. For her, I can't really remember the day I just didn't think about her anymore. Not long after that, I even had two FWB's at the same time, one of them with her name, and the other with her daughter's name. I never made the connection until much later. It was kinda funny when I noticed it. So don't worry, kids. It gets a lot better if you put in the time and and effort to make yourself your first priority.
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