Mcscooter Posted November 24, 2015 Posted November 24, 2015 It's been awhile since I've asked for advice on this website. I'm open to all opinions and no answer is wrong or stupid to me. I was with this wonderful young lady I would say. She was good and I was good for her. We talked for a month and even had sexual interactions. It was going all smooth until we got into an argument about her ex. Main point: She said she needed space for herself, called me a great guy. She wasn't completely over her ex and she's going through a lot. BTW she told me this in a text message. What I did: I choose not to respond, for there is nothing for me left to prove. This isn't my first rodeo in situations like this. Where I'm seeking advice: She eventually called me, asking me why I didn't text her back and I gave her my reason, she gave me attitude. I Kept the conversation short told her I was busy and i'll call her back. I haven't called her back.. I don't feel like I need to, but should I? As though she's seeking something from me. She's actually pretty smart and reasonable, if she was immature I wouldn't have thought about it. Were both understanding. Mainly what I see is that she wants to end in good terms, but I don't want anything to do with it. Makes me sound like a douche lol, but i'm not trying to be one. I guess you can say the question is... 1. What would you do in my shoes? 2. What would you tell your friend in a similar position? If there's certain details your wondering about feel free to ask. I try to keep my post short, so I don't post full details just the important ones.
casey.lives Posted November 25, 2015 Posted November 25, 2015 what you should do, is end on good terms. closure is a very common emotional need for many people and just because you've been in something similar doesn't make it the same. Every person deserve the integrity of being treated on individual basis. romantic relationships are highly personal and nothing about it is cavalier. Go and end on good terms, if not, it's a bit of you holding the person emotionally hostage. Once you've said your piece, and they have too, nail it shut.
Dylon Posted November 25, 2015 Posted November 25, 2015 First of all, the relationship didn't end because of an argument over her ex. It's clear she's been drifting.....and eventually popped the "I need space" after an argument. 2nd, she's iffy because she's still in the ending phase and not completely out yet, so she's used to having the control of the situation such as you answering to her needs. She's the one who asked for space so you do what you want. You didn't initiate it. Ending in good terms is good of course but you do what you need for "yourself". She has decided to give leaving a try.
mrldii Posted November 25, 2015 Posted November 25, 2015 ...I Kept the conversation short told her I was busy and i'll call her back. I haven't called her back.. I don't feel like I need to, but should I? 1. I'd call them back, simply because I said I would and I'm a person that keeps my word. If I'd had no intention of calling back, I wouldn't have said it and it and the conversation would already be over. 2. I'd reiterate what I'd already said (that they'd told me they weren't over their ex, yet) and so there was no reason to pursue/continue. What can she be expecting from you? Closure? There's nothing to close...she secured the door shut when she said she's not over her ex...therefore, she's not available for another relationship. Best of luck to you...
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