rainrhonda Posted November 24, 2015 Posted November 24, 2015 I accidentally said something to my new BF that came out sounding offensive and worse than it was supposed to sound. I won't go into detail but that was a week and a half ago (by text) and I haven't heard from him. I have apologized and explained what I really meant, etc, I have asked if he is done with me, etc and I get nothing. I told him I might think he is coming back if he doesn't tell me it's over. And he still isn't telling me. What am I supposed to think? I was not trying to hurt him at all with what I said, it just came out wrong. And I can't get him to talk to me to save my life. I have been a mess. If a person wants to break up, why wouldn't they just say so? I don't get it.
Amelie1980 Posted November 24, 2015 Posted November 24, 2015 I accidentally said something to my new BF that came out sounding offensive and worse than it was supposed to sound. I won't go into detail but that was a week and a half ago (by text) and I haven't heard from him. I have apologized and explained what I really meant, etc, I have asked if he is done with me, etc and I get nothing. I told him I might think he is coming back if he doesn't tell me it's over. And he still isn't telling me. What am I supposed to think? I was not trying to hurt him at all with what I said, it just came out wrong. And I can't get him to talk to me to save my life. I have been a mess. If a person wants to break up, why wouldn't they just say so? I don't get it. How long have you been together and any problems? The reason I ask is one of my exes did something very similar. Silly argument and a misunderstanding and he responded horribly and ended it blaming me....he didnt go silent, no he told me straight up it was my fault and he was ending it for that. My point it, no one ends a relationship or ghosts someone they really care about for one thing that is explainable. In my exes case, he was seeing someone else and used the misunderstanding to blame me and walk off into the sunset.
Author rainrhonda Posted November 24, 2015 Author Posted November 24, 2015 Only a couple of months. But we had a trip planned for this weekend and he knows I got stuck with a cancellation fee for this. I didn't think he was this kind of person or I guess what I said musta been way worse than I thought. But I've texted him alot so why wouldn't he bother to say I ticked him off and go away?
Amelie1980 Posted November 24, 2015 Posted November 24, 2015 Only a couple of months. But we had a trip planned for this weekend and he knows I got stuck with a cancellation fee for this. I didn't think he was this kind of person or I guess what I said musta been way worse than I thought. But I've texted him alot so why wouldn't he bother to say I ticked him off and go away? See that is the trouble in the early stages. You just dont know. I would say either the mask has slipped or he wasnt as interested as you thought. He could probably just have ghosted you as he is a coward and doesnt want to say it's over as he is just too cowardly. Sucks about the trip....could you not have taken a friend? I would just leave it now. He may calm down and contact you but you've explained and apologized and there is nothing more you can do.
Author rainrhonda Posted November 24, 2015 Author Posted November 24, 2015 I even told him it's ok to say it's over if that's what he wants. I said he's making it harder if he doesn't just say so. So it's giving me hope that he is still considering coming back, I don't want false hope and that would go away if he just said it's over.
Amelie1980 Posted November 25, 2015 Posted November 25, 2015 I even told him it's ok to say it's over if that's what he wants. I said he's making it harder if he doesn't just say so. So it's giving me hope that he is still considering coming back, I don't want false hope and that would go away if he just said it's over. Actually I dont like what he is doing. It is quite manipulative. If he doesnt tell you it is over, he can just waltz back in when he likes and by then you will be too scared to offend him ever again.
stillafool Posted November 25, 2015 Posted November 25, 2015 First we need to know what you said to him in order to form an opinion. 1
Author rainrhonda Posted November 25, 2015 Author Posted November 25, 2015 Actually I dont like what he is doing. It is quite manipulative. If he doesnt tell you it is over, he can just waltz back in when he likes and by then you will be too scared to offend him ever again. Yeah... It's like he's still thinking about it? I also gave him opportunity to just say if he is taking a time out. Or if he's done. I have asked him for that over and over, and I don't get why a person wouldn't just say, stop texting me, leave me alone, or I'm done with you, you made me mad.. It's very strange to me that he can't even say one of those things.
Author rainrhonda Posted November 25, 2015 Author Posted November 25, 2015 I had been having just one hang up with him that he never returned words of affection... I had tried explaining that a couple times before but got nowhere and it got swept under the rug. So one night my text was just kindof blowing up about it and not worded very well, and maybe sounded sordof demanding. But it wasn't meant to hurt him or yell at him, which I explained. Physically he was all there for me, but emotionally really nothing and it just got to me. But now I want him back and feel I made a big mistake.
Amelie1980 Posted November 25, 2015 Posted November 25, 2015 I had been having just one hang up with him that he never returned words of affection... I had tried explaining that a couple times before but got nowhere and it got swept under the rug. So one night my text was just kindof blowing up about it and not worded very well, and maybe sounded sordof demanding. But it wasn't meant to hurt him or yell at him, which I explained. Physically he was all there for me, but emotionally really nothing and it just got to me. But now I want him back and feel I made a big mistake. Maybe you over reacted but if he doesnt return words of affection and now isnt returning words at all....maybe he will show up later and by then you will be so grateful to have him back and he knows that.
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